Being a black woman in today’s day and age is hard.
The death of Ahmaud Abrey Breonna Taylor has brought to light many issues in our country that have yet to be resolved.
In both cases, innocent black Americans were minding their own business and were murdered. Their families were left grieving without resolution and without justice for the murders.
Ahmaud Arbery was a 25-year-old black male running in his own neighborhood when he was cornered and gunned down because he was thought to be a suspect of break-ins in the neighborhood. At the time of his jog, he was just running. He was not committing a crime.
Breonna Taylor was a 26-year-old EMT who was shot in her home asleep by unmarked officers who entered the wrong home.
These stories need to be told so that we can take action and begin to receive justice.
As much as we like to use phrases like we all bleed the same, for black people, these words carry far heavier weight.
Hearing about the murders of innocent black men and black women is scary.
It causes us to have deep conversations with our children and in our communities–conversations that we shouldn’t have to have.
My children are biracial and light-skinned, but these conversations are still important for me to have with them.
They are young, so they may not always understand the importance of these conversations, but they have to be had nonetheless.
It’s not easy y’all.
As black women, we’re often treated differently. yet are expected to adhere to a set of invisible standards.
If I wear my hair in a certain way, people will judge me. They will make assumptions about my intelligence.
When I’m out alone with my kids, people often assume I’m a single mom until they catch a glimpse of my wedding band.
When I’m seeking medical attention, staff assume I am on public assistance (this has happened on more than 1 occasion. I even switched pediatricians because of it)
My pediatrician at the time even spoke to my daughter (who was 1) and told her to tell me to stop spending all of her college funds on her clothes.
I am treated differently when I wear my (large) natural hair vs. long straight hair.
Women assume that I find all white men attractive (sorry sista, just mine).
Being a black woman in complicated. Want to know more about what you can do? Check out this YouTube video I did with Brittany from The Almost Indian Wife.