Curly Hair Care

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When I was a kid, the main curly hair accessories everyone had were beads and scrunchies. Now, the options are endless!

Adding accessories to your curly hair gives you an opportunity to experiment with your look whether you are rocking your natural hair or wearing a protective style.

Scrunchies

Scrunchies didn’t have to make a comeback, because they never really went out of style–they were just reinvented! Now you can find scrunchies in all sorts of patterns, textures, and fabrics. They are perfect for buns, updos, and braided styles.

Metal cuffs

Metal cuffs make the perfect curly hair accessories because they are super simple to put in. They come in a variety of shapes and colors and look amazing in a variety of curl types!

Turbans

Turbans are chic and really require little effort. They are perfect for bad hair days, or for running out the house quickly while still looking put together.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Last night before I got in the shower, I saw what looked like poison ivy. I never got poison ivy growing up, but since my husband has become a farmer, it’s happened more times than I care to mention. In fact I just told my husband last night that moments like that make me hate the farm. But truthfully, I could never hate the farm.

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Turbans have come a long way, and are available for babies, toddlers, and adults.

Grace Eleyae makes a beautiful collection of headgear–from turbans to beanies, to satin-lined caps, they get the importance of keeping curly hair tangle-free without compromising effort or style.

Wooden beads

The old plastic beads from the 80s have been given a makeover through wooden beads. They are the perfect accessory for all sorts of curly hairstyles!

The trick with wooden beads is having a tool to thread them with. I suggest a threader that isn’t cheap plastic. I used the one that came with the beads at the hair store and it broke after threading 1 set of beads.

You may also want to check the width of the beads against the size of your braids. The smaller the opening, the harder it is to thread. But once you have added beads to your look, you won’t regret it!

Yarn/Strings

I love my curls, but every now and then, your girl needs a break from the daily grind of washing and styling.

One of my favorite protective styles is braids. Right now I’m wearing passion twists and I’ve been decorating them with colorful yarn and strings.

 

 

 

 

 

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I decided to help my hubby collect eggs & pick sorrel so that he could get home earlier. I changed out of my work clothes & into.his farm gear. The only problem? No scrunchie for these long cute #passiontwists. I’ve been wearing them for a month now & have new growth like whoa. Whenever I wear a protective style, I try to get my money’s worth out of it. And let’s be real….mornings with little to no hair maintenance is the life I like. So I think I’ll be getting these again👍🏾

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The yarn takes just takes a few minutes to put in. All you have to do is cut it the length you want, tie it at the top of your braid, then criss-cross the yarn/string down your braid.

I love mixing up the colors to accessorize my look. You can find braid yarn/string at your local hair store, Sally Beauty Supply or on Amazon.

Check out my Amazon storefront for more curly hair accessories!

 

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What is Amazon Prime Day?

This year, it is a two-day shopping event. For Amazon Prime members, it’s like Christmas in July! There are sales on items in every category.

How do you get started?

The best way to take advantage of Amazon Prime deals is to watch the items you like a week in advance (it’s not too late to start!), then on the sale days, purchase your items through the Amazon app or Amazon.com.

The best part about being a prime member is that certain deals drop on prime day and you’ll be notified when they go live. Special prime day options have the prime badge, so you know if they qualify or not.

You’ll get a $10 Amazon credit if you sign on to the app for the first time, and another $10 credit after your first in-app purchase.

Also, if you shop the Whole Foods Market (in store or via Prime now), you’ll get $10 on Prime Day.

Now that you know how Prime Day works, I want to share a few of my favorite products with you.

Product Recommendations

CurlMix

I’ll admit, I didn’t hear too many people raving about CurlMix, so I wasn’t rushing to try it.

This summer, my cousin had some and I decided to try it in my wash and go. My curls were popping, so I became a fan! I haven’t tried all of the items in their 4 step product line, but the step 3 Pure Avocado Moisturizer is great! 

Hairfinity

I can’t say enough good things about Hairfinity. I love the shampoo, conditioner & hair vitamins.

The products are a little on the pricey side, but worth every penny. I don’t typically rave about a shampoo alone, but the Hairfinity shampoo is the real deal. It leaves my hair squeaky clean and moisturized. 
And the gummy vitamins taste like candy! I’ve been taking them to combat postpartum hair loss. 

Want more product recommendations? Check out my  Amazon storefront! 

What other deals are available on Amazon Prime Day?

Sally Beauty will be offering prime day deals from Sunday, July 14-Tuesday, July 16.

One of the deals I’m most excited about is the 50% off all conditioners and treatments.

I have 3 conditioners to 1 shampoo. Why? Because conditioners bring the life back into dry, brittle hair. A good conditioner also helps to detangle curls without breakage.

There will also be 50% off styling tools, 30% clearance items, and buy 1 get 1 75% hair spray/hair styling products.

 

Good luck curly girls finding all the things you need on a dime! Tag me @arethoseyourkids on Instagram and show me what you found! 

 

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Detangling curly hair without breakage is tricky.

I have 3 children, and all of them have (different types) curly hair! The process of caring for their hair has come through trial and error. I have curly hair myself, so I know that detangling curly hair without breakage can be tricky.

Here are a few tips that I’ve used for detangling curly hair without breakage:

Keep hair in protective styles

My girls love wearing their hair out, but the days that I allow it are few and far between. Frequent styling, washing, and even tossing and turning at night cause damage to your hair from the constant tugging and pulling on the ends, which are the most fragile part of your curls.

Protective styles can be as simple as buns, twists, pigtails and updos or as complicated as braids and cornrows.

Wash & Detangle Weekly

How often should you wash curly hair?

Some curly hair textures (like my 4c hair) only need to be washed weekly. Others feel and look best washing 2-3 times a week.

Spending time weekly to make sure you hair is clean and free of knots will reduce your time working knots out of your curls in the long run.

Some curly girls choose to wash more than once a week, but honestly it depends on your hair and lifestyle. Curly girls who are more active and use more products will need to wash more frequently than someone who isn’t as active.

Let Conditioners (Leave In & Wash Out) Do the Work For You

When I don’t take the time to properly condition my hair, the knots are out of control!

Using deep conditioners & leave in conditioners weekly make it so that detangling is a breeze. The products soften the hair and work the tangles out so that I don’t have to fight with my curls to style them.

Mielle Organics Babassu Oil And Mint Deep Conditioner  is hands down one of my favorite deep conditioners and works on all hair types.Knowing your curl pattern will help you know what kind of products your hair needs.

For example, my youngest daughter has wavy, curly hair. Her curls don’t do well with thick butters and creams because they weigh her hair down.

Some of my favorite leave ins for her hair are Kinky Curly Knot Today & Camille Rose Naturals Moisture Milk.

Bonus Tip: Trim Hair Regularly

Since my son has been born, I haven’t done the best job of taking care of my 4C hair. Late nights (and not sleeping through the night) has caused me to take the quick and easy route. I mostly wear my hair in a puff, and washing/conditioning/detangling takes no more than 10 minutes.

Unfortunatly, I have been the worst at keeping my hair trimmed. Shortly after the baby was born, I noticed that no matter how much deep conditioner I used, my hair still stayed in knots.

I finally scheduled an appointment with my beautician and an inch had to be cut off.

Two weeks ago, I cut another inch off.

It hurt because I’ve been working so hard at growing out my hair, and it finally touched my shoulders!!  (Those of you with curly hair know this is a big deal because curly hair shrinks)

But now my hair is healthy and tangle free, so bring on the length!

Are you a total loss when it comes to styling your child’s naturally curly hair? Purchase my e-book, The Frustration-Free Guide to Curly Hair to answer all your curly hair questions + get a guide to products by curl type! 

Want a larger, comprehrensive list of safe(organic) products for your baby’s skin and curly hair? Then I’ve got you covered. For only $20, the Curly Hair & Skin Care for Babies & Toddlers E-book gives you tips for nighttime care, tips for handling cradle cap, a bonus list of YouTube vloggers to follow and so much more!! Click here if you want to purchase.

What social media channel do you use to follow your favorite curly girls?

While Facebook holds a soft spot in my heart, Instagram is probably my favorite.

Not only do you get to follow their stories and videos, but you also get to interact with them. Several of these curly girls have been around for years, so you really get to follow their curly evolution through their Instagram feeds , stories, and live videos.

Charmsie

 

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✨2019✨ Let’s Grow & Glow babyyy … vision boards done? 🙋🏽‍♀️ closet clear outs? deleting excess photos from your phone? unsubscribing from email lists that are taking over your inbox ? 😬 What’s your “reset” tradition for the new year?? I’m currently stuck on deleting photos, because I apparently need 12,000 photos of my son napping lol | Lips @fentybeauty #stunnalippaint + Swim Top @riotswim + Earrings @zara✨

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Chamsie is just what her name says–a charming curly mama of 1 with a head full of vibrant, beautiful curls. If you love a curly girl who appreciates all things animal print, then Charmsie is ya girl.

She has a bold style that exudes confidence and she shares tips on how to have a stand out style of your own.

Naptural 85

 

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Hey guys! 👋🏾😘 I just really wanted to remind you, as you’re scrolling through this materialistic, numbers-obsessed social media platform, that no matter what you’re doing in life, YOU ARE NOT your bank account 🙅🏾 YOU ARE NOT your follower count 🙅🏾 YOU ARE NOT your labels 🙅🏾 No human being is better than another human being 💯 We are all made of the SAME MATTER and how you feel and make OTHERS FEEL is what TRULY matters. #thatisall XO! 😘✊🏾❤️

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Whitney is an OG in the curly girl vlogger world. She is queen of the DIY products and this year she  launched her Melanin hair care line (which I am loving!)

I love that she shows us that looking good doesn’t have to break the bank–or include toxic chemicals.

Melissa Chanel

 

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The Cantu Paris takeover was def one for the books! We were able to chat with #ParisNaturals about their favorite Cantu products/styles and gave away some concert tickets! Thank you to @olivialvs for hosting, my Cantu Crew @mmerrity & @stikupon for the hard work and fun, as well as @gtworldofbeauty Paris for letting us take over the store, Cantu style! #melissachanelworks #CantuCrew #naturalhair #parisfrance

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If you are obsessed with Cantu, fashion and sneakers, then Melissa Chanel is the girl to follow. She’s as sweet in person as she appears online. She’s one of my personal favorites because I’ve known her since college and she’s your  quintessential fashionable curly girl next door.

Halfie Truths

 

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16mo in this BF game. I honestly never thought this would be us, but I’m so grateful to my body that it is. – We are currently night weaning using Dr Jay Gordon’s cosleeping method + last night…. wasn’t awful 😂. Our plan is to self wean, but like with all plans in parenting <and life> it’s subject to change. – On the last day, of a year that dragged my ass, I am filled with so much gratitude… for my body + for my spirit, they truly have endured✨ – What are you grateful for as this season come to an end? – Shirts + sleeping method are linked in my story💚

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Shel brings all the truths. She documents her journey to motherhood and all things in between. This curly girl gives you the real and holds nothing back.

Themariaantoinette

She is the well rounded curly queen. She’ll give you a gorgeous beat face in one square, quick and easy hair tutorials in the next and suggestions for your home in another. Talk about #momgoals!

 

 

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Did y’all see my Therapy Highlight!?!?! I have officially “graduated” from therapy!!! So this is my current and forever #mood! . . When I read the DM that said “graduated” it just resonated with me so deeply. Just like school we graduate but we should never be done with bettering ourselves. This was my second go round with therapy and I am better for it. Check out my stories and share them with someone who might need a little encouragement on going to therapy! We are in this together and none of us are alone! . . Happy Friday #MASquad!!!! Love y’all to the moon and back and thank you for all of the support love and encouraging words! #theMALife #mentalhealthawareness #therapyforthewin . . PC:// @meccagamble

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Taralindaaa

 

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It’s wash day! I only have time to wash my hair on the weekend so by that time, my hair is dry and in desperate need of a good cleanse and moisture. I can give it that and more with @rawsugarliving’s New Truly Unruly Shampoo and Conditioner. I LOVE a great shampoo and conditioner duo that makes me look forward to wash day. This shampoo has one of my favorite ingredients, apple cider vinegar which is awesome for cleansing while fighting frizz, along with avocado and rosemary oil. The conditioner has tons of slip for detangling and then I top it off with the All That Shine hair masque. The mask melts into my hair like butterrrr. • • Just like their body products, @rawsugarliving’s hair products are made cold pressed ingredients that smooth and tame unruly curls🤗 Plus, @rawsugarliving gives me another reason to stock up on my favs. For every product purchased, a fresh bar of soap is given to a family in need. You can find them at your local Target or Walgreens.🧡 #rawThankYou #rawlovin #Ad

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When you scroll through this mama’s page, you’ll want to stay all day! She’s a teacher and mom of 4 that always looks so put together!

shanillia26

 

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Some new hairstyle inspiration for the mommys who can not cornrow! @shanilliandjanelle – –

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This dope mom is one to follow for so many reasons! Her braiding skills are creative & amazing and she always slays too!

 

 

lynnettessilhouettes

 

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Pillow pink ✨🌸 #32weekspregnant . #motherhood #babies #mommy #mommyandme #babygirl #pregnant #pregnancy #momlife #mom #kids #cutebabies #cutenessoverload #toddler #mommylife

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This gorgeous mom of 2 is 1/3 of the beautiful My natural sistas. I started following them 5 years ago on YouTube when I was newly natural and had no clue what to do with my natural hair.

Arethoseyourkids

 

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My kids are biracial & have 3 different curl patterns. Different curl patterns could potentially =spending more💸💰 on hair products. @manyethnicities gets it. Their products add moisture to my kids curls without being too heavy. The ingredients are simple & safe & smell amazing!! The best part? When my husband is braiding the girls hair at night, he specifically requests the leave in cream. Win!! Check out my link in profile for tips for curly, wavy hair. #partner

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Me! I’m bringing you all things multiracial motherhood! I share my favorite tips & products on my timeline and stories for naturalistas and their kids.

There are so many more curly ladies on Instagram, so it was hard to narrow this list down to just 10.

It took me awhile to love my kinky, coily 4C hair. 

When I was a young girl, I always wondered how my hair was so curly when it was wet, but then “nappy” when it was dry. 

Before the natural girls rock movement, most black women were wearing their hair all natural with minimal products, straight with a relaxer, or curly with a texturizer. 

The minute your relaxed hair started to take on its curly natural state, you were clowned by classmates about having “nappy hair.”

I saw afros as outdated styles from the 70s and never had a desire to have one. 

Fast foward to my late twenties, and I was sitting in the dermatologist office being told that my scalp would feel so much better if I stopped getting relaxers. Because it was a black women suggesting it, I listened to her advice, but it fell on deaf ears. There was ABSOLUTELY NO WAY I was walking around with a big afro. 

At my next dermatology visit, I had made it 12 weeks without a relaxer, and I was still alive. I torture I had endured for relaxers no longer seemed worth it. I “sacraficed for beauty’s sake” but my scalp was irritated, peeling, itchy and scabbed over. 

After cutting my straight hair off and doing the big chop, I slowly started to embrace the new me. The learning curve was tough, but now I’m so in love with my kinky, coily 4C hair.

Here’s why:

You Can Shock People With the Length

My daughters are 7 & 5 and they love commenting on things that are similar and different about us. My oldest daughter loves to tell me how short my hair is compared to hers. What she doesn’t realize is that 4C hair has major shrinkage. 

So even though my hair looks short, it actually has a decent amount of length!

Styles for Days

When I first went natural, the thought of maintaining a thick head of hair was very overwhelming, so as my hair grew, I cut it. I kept it short on the sides and long on the top. 

It was easier to maintain while raising 2 toddlers, especially on wash days. Now I”m trying to grow my hair as long as I can, just to see what it will look like. 

Now I wear my hair in a variety of styles–braids, buns, puffs. You name it, I’m willing to try it!

Your Afro Can Get as Big as You Want It To Be

I love experimenting with different protective styles to manipulate the looks of my curls. Twist out provide amazing definition, and the opportunity for your hair to get bigger as each day passes. 

And with 4C hair, bigger is always better!! If you don’t feel like rocking the super defined look, you can wear your afro as is!

Less Frizz

Kinky, coily 4C hair is very forgiving when it comes to frizz. If an older protective style begins to frizz, it only makes the hair bigger and more fabulous!

 

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