Curly Hair Care

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I have 3 children with curly hair, and my youngest daughter has wavy, curly hair.

Learning to manage and style her hair has been a challenge because while it is not completely straight, yet not completely curly either.

I have 4c hair. It is kinky, coarse & requires a lot of moisture, while hers is between 2B/2C.

Her hair is a mixture of waves and curls.

Her hair is fine, wavy and gets weighed down easily by products that my hair craves. Learning what to use in her hair has been a bit of trial and error. Here’s what I’ve learned about wavy, curly hair:

It’s Okay To Use Shampoo On Wavy Curly Hair

There are a lot of women who subscribe to the curly girl method–a method that discourages shampoo.

Wavy curly hair often looks limp and weighed down when saturated with products, so for that reason, I don’t like the curly girl method.

Using shampoo cleanses the scalp and hair of product build up, giving you a clean slate for moisturizing and styling.

I typically only shampoo 1-2 times a week.

Most curly girls only use shampoo once a week, but when your child spends a majority of their time outside, or they go to school on a regular basis, I like to shampoo more than once a week.

Avoid Products With Toxic Chemicals & Opt For Products With Natural Ingredients

Sulfates are what give shampoo bubbles & suds and parabens have been linked to cancer. Typically if you are reading a product label and cannot pronounce most of the ingredients, they are not good for your hair. Companies add these products as preservatives, but can be harmful for your skin and hair.

Products with added fragrance are full of hidden chemicals. Plant derived ingredients can help with hair moisture and growth without the use of toxic chemicals.

Detanglers & Leave In Conditioners Are A Necessity

Curly wavy hair needs moisture. A lack of moisture often causes frizziness. I love spray leave in conditioners because it is easier to control the amount that is coming out of the bottle and it adds a nice shine without being too thick.

Using thick butters and leave in conditioner creams weigh the hair down and make it look lifeless.

Some of my favorite leave in conditioners come from the Taliah Waajid kids & Taliah Waajid kids lines & Kinky Curly Knot Today.

Using Gel Minimizes Frizz & Defines Curls

On days that we skip gel, my daughter looks like she has bedhead. Gel keeps her beautiful wavy curly hair defined and polished.

The trick to knowing how to manage and style curly hair is to identify the curl type. Once you have an understanding of what your specific curl type needs, you will be on the road to beautiful, healthy curls!

Are you a total loss when it comes to styling your child’s naturally curly hair? Purchase my e-book, The Frustration-Free Guide to Curly Hair to answer all your curly hair questions + get a guide to products by curl type! 

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With two of my three kids in school, finding easy hairstyles that get us out the door quickly is a must!!

My oldest two are girls, and are often very opinionated about their hair. They both have different textures of curls, and I’m working on teaching them how to love and care for their curls.

I keep a basket of products in their closet, and they often ask me what product I’m using and why. I use this as a teachable moment, so that one day, they will know how to style their hair without my assistance.

When they were babies, I was a little lost when it came to products. I have curly hair too, but the texture of my hair is much thicker than theirs. It took lots of time (and money) to figure out what works for them.

After I learned what worked for them, I had to teach my husband—this works out great because now if I’m running behind in the morning, he is the one styling their hair!

Here are a few of our quick and easy hairstyles:

The Relaxed Bun:

Basically this style is a lazy version of a tight bun. After making a ponytail, I pull the hair almost all the way out of the band and leave a little hair at the bottom.

You can dress up this hairstyle with a bow or a headband. It’s also known as a topknot.

Do your girls like watching Sunny Day on Nick Jr? Thanks to her, my girls have started requesting different hairstyles.

Two Space Buns

This is probably one of my favorite styles. For moms who are not good at braiding or parting, this style is very forgiving.

It only requires 1 part down the center of the head, then making two ponytails. The two ponytails are then wrapped around each other and pinned down into buns.

And voila! Two space buns!   It’s an easy relaxed style, or you can dress them up with a scarf or headband.

Side Pony

I know what you’re thinking….

The side pony is such an 80’s style! But trust me, the side pony has made a comeback! My daughters love to dress up their ponytails with cat ears or turbans.

You can give the side pony some versatility by making it high or low. Either way, it’s such a cute and easy style!

Half Up, Half Down

If your daughters are like mine, they like to wear their hair down a lot. The problem with keeping curly hair loose is that it leaves the ends open to breakage.

Typically a style like this one is for special occasions like church or birthday parties. This is not an everyday style.

Braided Pony

Hairstyles like the braided pony are great protective styles.

A protective style tucks most of your hair away from daily manipulation.

Depending on the curl type, this style may last a few days without having to refresh it.

In order to achieve a sleek look without frizz at the end of the day, I recommend finding a gel to slick the edges down.

If you don’t have curly hair yourself, learning how to style curls can be a bit of a challenge. These 5 styles are simple and don’t require a lot of prior knowledge to accomplish.

If you are totally clueless about curly hair and need some help, then the Frustration Free Guide to Curly Hair is for you!

In it, you’ll get a FREE guide to the best products by curl type. It even breaks down the need of each curl type to make styling easier.

It’s only $8 and full of information that will change how you view your curls.

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Caring for baby curly hair is a little different than caring for an older person with curly hair.

Finding products that are gentle, but hydrate, define, encourage growth & moisturize all at the same time can be a bit tricky.

All three of my children were born with curly hair. The oldest and youngest  have similar thicker tighter curls patterns, while my middle child has looser, wavy curls. Finding the right products for them has been trial and error.

It’s important to know that genetics plays a role in your child’s curls. Your child may even have hair similar to a distant family member, and nothing like the people in their immediate family.

When I was pregnant, I envisioned what my children would look like, and I wondered what their hair would look like.

My husband has brown straight hair, and I have 4c hair (the thickest, tightest curl pattern). Our children got his hair color, but all of them have curly hair.

Less is More

Baby curly hair really doesn’ require a lot of manipulation. Enjoy the easy care routines while they last! Use a shampoo that is formulated for babies.

This ensures that if the shampoo gets in your baby’s eyes, it won’t burn. Finding products that are free from harmful ingredients such as sulfates and parabens can cause dryness which=dry curls.

Conditioner is Your Friend

If your baby doesn’t have very much hair, you don’t have to worry about using a lot of products.

Wash with conditioner every other day. There are many conditioners on the market with natural ingredients that are formulated just for children.

After bath, use a light cream or leave in conditioner to seal in moisture and define those baby curls. One of my favorite leave in conditioners is Mielle Organics. 

I also love the Mane Choice kids line.

Take it Easy on Their Scalp

Keep in mind that babies have very sensitive scalps. Some babies are prone to cradle cap, and that is perfectly normal! It will usually clear up on its own.

You can speed up the healing process by using a little coconut oil on the scalp, and using a baby brush to gently brush the scales out.

Use Protective Styling

Curly hair is prone to be dry and damaged when left free daily. Simple styles like cornrows, ponytails, buns and braids promote healthy hair growth.

If you do not feel confident styling hair, refer to Pinterest for ideas or enlist the help of a stylist.

Know that Baby Curly Hair May Change

What worked for baby curly hair may not work as your child grows. Their texture and curl pattern may change, so you may have to adjust the products that you are using.

If you find that after your child’s curly hair look dull and lifeless after you have used a product, it probably doesn’t work for their hair anymore.

If you are totally clueless when it comes to styling curly hair, don’t worry, I’ve got you! When you purchase my e-book, The Frustration Free Guide to Curly Hair, it will help you understand the unique needs of curly hair and take the frustration out of your day to day routine.

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“Ouch mama!”

On occasion, my youngest daughter will say this when I’m parting her wavy, curly hair. She says that the comb pokes her.

I get annoyed because making a part lasts less than a minute and a fine tooth comb is the perfect tool to get the job done.

As a young black girl, getting my hair done weekly was a long process. The thickness of my hair made washing, drying and styling almost an all day process. I didn’t dread it (for the most part) because it was just part of our weekly routine.

Now that I’m raising my own biracial children, I try to make our curly hair process fun. I want them to grow up having pride in who they are and all parts of themselves.

People often ask how I get my girls to sit still while I’m styling their hair. It’s something I never really thought about until the question arose.

From the time they were babies, my husband and I made bath time, getting ready and bedtime fun events, so we never had much resistance from our kids in those areas.

Involve Them in the Process

My husband even gets involved in the hair styling process–especially on those days that I am running late for work, or too exhausted to finish bedtime routines.

It’s funny how most of the lessons we learn in life are from experience, not so much from someone sitting down and giving us a lesson.

What I remember about getting my hair done as a little girl was that my mom involved me in the process. She would show me my outfit and allow me to pick out barrettes that matched. As I got older, she even allowed me to pick out particular styles.

This is a lesson that I carried on with my girls. Now that my oldest is  7, she asks questions about EVERYTHING, so I use this to my advantage. I tell her what products work in her hair and why.

I also encourage her to take care of her hair when she is away (spending the night at grandmas). I am preparing her to take over caring for her own curls as she gets older.

Lucky for us, we’ve found a couple of brands that work for all 3 of our curly textures. Right now we are loving The Mane Choice & Camille Rose Naturals.

Answer Questions About Their Curls

If you have little ones like I do, I know that answering questions gets annoying at times. It seems like one answer just leads into the next question. But if we truly think about the purpose of questions (to get an answer) maybe we won’t get so annoyed.

Our kids are learning so much about their world and it’s important for them to get a correct answer so they can be well informed. I love that my girls ask questions about what products I’m using and why.

As they grow into preteens and young adults, they won’t have to go through the struggle I did when I first embraced my natural curls. They will be confident in knowing what works for them and why.

Get Help

If you are at a total loss of what to do with your child’s curls, it’s okay!!

Maybe you have straight hair, or you are raising a child of an ethnicity that is completely different from yours.

The important thing is to seek out help and use resources around you to help figure out what to do with your child’s hair.

Giving up isn’t an option because as a parent, it is your job to make sure your child has a healthy self-esteem, and believe it or not, healthy hair is connected to self-esteem!

Seek out the help of someone in a salon if you are lost. Use the recommendations of friends/family/coworkers that have a similar texture.

You don’t have to feel embarrassed if you are lost. Trust me, the learning curve was huge for me too…and I have curly hair!

I’d love to help you take the frustration out of styling your child’s curly hair. When you purchase my e-book, The Frustration-Free Guide to Curly Hair, it will answer all your curly hair questions +  you’ll get a guide to products by curl type! 

Today on the blog I am welcoming Dione Laufenberg, the author of  Laufty Life. She’s sharing her tips on how to create a french braid on curly hair.

The problem with French Braids on Curly Hair

As we counted down the days to our trip to Disney World, I asked my youngest daughter Misha what she was most looking forward to seeing or doing.  She replied that she couldn’t wait to meet Elsa.

Although it has been 5 years since Disney released Frozen in theaters, the popularity of its break out stars Elsa and Anna has not waned.  Their popularity has revived the classic French Braid hairstyle.

A single French braid in the case of Elsa, and a double French braid for Anna.  Consequently, the hairstyle has been requested by my daughters on several occasions.  Unfortunately, I have found it to be a less than ideal choice for curly hair because it doesn’t seem to last.

Which prompted me to experiment until I found a solution.  Here is my workaround on how to create a lasting protective French braid for mixed girls with natural curly hair.

The Solution for Mixed Kid’s Curly Hair

Giana has a 3b/3a curl pattern and Misha has a similar texture with some of her hair around the perimeter falling looser into a 2c wavy pattern.

Whenever I braided their hair into a French braid,  I noticed that as the hair dried and the curls reverted the smoothness around the edges dissipated.

The braid became frizzy and I would have to unbraid it and do it all over again within a day or two.  In my opinion, a protective style that doesn’t last 3 days or more and cannot be morphed into a second style isn’t worth my time.

After doing box braids for the first time on Giana’s hair and seeing that style resulted in longevity, I changed my styling mindset.

Giana wore the braids for just short of two weeks, I realized that I could spend a little more time upfront and create styles for my mixed daughter’s hair that would carry them through the school week.

I noticed that by sectioning the hair into 1 inch by 1-inch squares and smoothing each section, the curls were stretched and subsequently remained more tamed.  I wondered if I could use this same technique to create a sustainable braided style.

I sectioned the hair first, and then added the French Braid.  This  created a French braid with a little more pizazz and longevity.  Here are the full instructions on how to create a French braid on Mixed kid’s hair that lasts!

Recipe for French Braid Style for Mixed Kid’s Curly Hair

1. Co-wash hair
2. Deep Condition 30 minutes
3. Add leave in conditioner
4. Layer an oil to seal
5. Apply a curl crème
6. Use rubber bands and section hair into 1×1 inch squares.
7. Smooth each section with a comb
8. Use the sections to create a French Braid

Maintaining the Style

As we usually do, we spritz the hair throughout the week with a mixture of water, oil and aloe juice.  We also added a little mouse to smooth down and hold the braids.  Misha rocked this style from Monday through Friday.

On the fifth day we unbraided the French Braids.  Then added more moisture and she was able to wear the sectioned hair as a second style.  We could have also converted those sections into twist.

It can be disheartening to disappoint our mixed daughters when we cannot achieve a commercialized style that is meant for straight Caucasian hair.  Elsa is defining a standard of beauty and reinforcing one image into young girl’s minds.   We have taken that frustration as inspiration to create unique hairstyles that we share on Laufty Life.

To my delight, these styles have all the straight-haired girls at their schools asking my daughters, who did your hair?  Hearing this is music to my momma ears!!

Dione Laufenberg is the founder of Laufty Life.  She is mommy to two perfectly blended beauties who recognized the challenges of caring for their hair.  As an expert in wellness and relaxation, she has a Bachelors degree in Psychology and license for massage therapy, nail technician and Aesthetician.

Having owned a boutique day spa that offered luxury spa treatments she has a passion for self care, preventative healthcare and pampering.  Now channeling her knowledge into her writing, she gives a unique narrative to being a black women raising biracial daughters.  Laufty Life is a resource for biracial children’s hair.  Providing regimens, hairstyles and positive self love tips.