Curly Hair Care

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I first went natural and stopped getting relaxers 3 years ago.

I fought the natural movement with a vengeance, but ultimately succumbed so that I could have a healthy head of hair and less irritation from chemicals on my scalp.

Initially I had no idea what I was doing and made many mistakes. I watched YouTube videos, took recommendations from friends, but many days were met with frustration when it was time to do my hair.

Both of my daughters have curly hair, and when I look back at old pictures, it was clear that I was a little lost.

Now that I’ve learned a thing or two about different curl patters and what each one needs, I want to share how to avoid some of the mistakes I made.

Buying Every Curly Haired Product on the Market

Every product marketed for curly-haired people isn’t for you! Different textures have varying properties.

For example, wavy curly hair typically doesn’t do well with heavy, oily products. My youngest has wavy hair and we cannot share products.

Knowing your curl type and what it needs is the first step is discovering which product will work for you. Check out the curl chart below to identify your curl type.

Styling Curls Dry

Ouch!

Curly hair needs water and moisture to flourish! Water makes the curls easier to manage and gives you a fresh palate to work with. Styling curly hair with a comb or a brush while dry can be extremely painful.

Do yourself a favor and spritz those locks with water before jumping in to a style.

Leaving Hair Out

The weather can be tough on curls.

One of my favorite ways to protect my curls is by using a protective style.

My natural hair is braided down and the faux locs were crocheted into my hair, so they are getting a break from the everyday wear and tear.

I rarely leave my girl’s hair out unless we are headed to a special occasion. They typically wear buns, braids or other styles that keep their ends secured and protected from split ends and exposure to harsh climates.

Skipping Gel

Gel has gotten a bad rap over the years. When most people think of gel, they think of a brown, thick goopy mess. I’m here to tell you that gel is a staple in my home and we use it on all 3 textures of curls!

 

It keeps the flyaways at bay, and gives us a sleek, clean look. It is also great for defining our curls.

The gel I use for my 4C hair is thicker than what my daughters use because it would weigh down their curls.

Neglecting a Night Routine

Not only is it important to protect curls during the day, but it is equally as important to protect them at night. In my Multiracial Motherhood Facebook group, one of the mistakes that we discuss frequently is leaving hair free at night.

Curly hair should be secured by a satin scarf or bonnet.

My daughters wear a braid to keep their hair from tangling as they toss and turn during the night.

Another easy way to keep curls protected is to invest in a satin pillowcase. Some people are wild sleepers, so the scarf or bonnet frequently comes off.

Overmanipulation

Too much heat or product can be damaging to your curls. Overwashing can also strip the hair of the natural oils it needs to remain healthy.

Most curly girls co-wash in lieu of a regular shampoo/conditioner routine. I personally still enjoy using a moisturizing shampoo to cleanse my hair from all the products I’ve used that week. Finding a good shampoo free of sulfates (which leave the hair dry) is the perfect way to eliminate sweat, product buildup and dirt from your hair.

If you are prone to dry scalp, using a combination of a clarifying shampoo & moisturizing shampoo can cleanse your scalp while leaving your hair moisturized. Using products with tea tree, peppermint oil or plain ACV can work wonders for a dry scalp.

It is best to let your hair air dry as much as possible. Using gel can reduce the amount of frizz that can occur from air drying.

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A dry, itchy scalp can be brought on by stress, product buildup, change in temperature, or chronic skin conditions. The worst part is that a dry scalp often leaves you with embarassing white flakes.

How do you get rid of a a dry, itchy scalp? Here are a few natural remedies & products to chase the dryness away.

Here are a few natural remedies & products to chase the dryness away.

Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle Shampoo & Conditioner

One of my favorite YouTube vloggers mentioned this duo on her channel and I’ve been dying to try them for years. Problem is, we don’t live anywhere near a Trader Joe’s. My oh, so kind family member brought these babies back from out of town and my hubby & I have been hooked ever since!

 

Products containing tea tree tend to be heavily scented. The shampoo & conditioner are lighter in scent than most products designed to attack a dry scalp, but they still pack a punch.

Apple Cider Vinegar

The first time I heard this mentioned, I cringed. And I was extremely skeptical. How could something that smells so strong (and is often used as a marinade) be good for my scalp??

The first time I tried it, I had a scalp flare up from dermatisis and I felt instant relief. The ares of my scalp that I had scratched practically raw burned when the ACV touched it, but my scalp felt so clean afterwards.

I was worried about the smell, but after following up with my regular conditioner, the smell was a thing of the past.

(Essential Oils)Tea Tree, Rosemary & Peppermint Oil

Tea tree (aka melaleuca)oil has antibacterial properties that heal all kinds of scalp issues. Be sure to mix it with another carrier oil (like olive, jojoba, coconut, etc) to prevent your scalp from burning. The smell is VERY strong, so if you are sensitive to smell, you can add a few drops to your conditioner.

I personally love Young Living tea tree oil. Young Living has a seed to seal guarantee, so I know that I am getting the purest form of tea trea to apply to my scalp. Rosemary oil & peppermint oil are great too!

You can leave it on your scalp as a deep conditioner for about 20 minutes, then rinse out.

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Be careful not to get in your eyes. It burns like no other–and your eye will continue to tingle for hours.

Mielle Organics Babassu Oil & Mint Deep Conditioner

If you’ve been following the blog awhile, then you know that this is hands down, this Mielle Organics conditioner is of my favorites. Not only does it do wonders for soothing a dry, itchy scalp, but it also doubles as a great leave in conditioner.

It is one of the best detangling conditioners that I’ve found to moisturize my hair while treating my scalp. It’s a little pricey, but a staple that will forever be in my possession.

Cantu Apple Cider Vinegar Line

What I appreciate most about Cantu products is the affordability, availability & reliability. Their products will never break the bank & you can find them any & everywhere. When I heard they were coming out with an apple cider root relief line, I ran to my nearest CVS to score these products.

What I love most about these products is that they work on any hairstyle. If you happen to be wearing a protective style, the applicator tip makes it easy to get to your scalp. The tea tree & jojoba oil is pretty thick, so a little bit goes a long way. The only downside to this product is that it can be difficult to dispense, even with an applicator tip.

Carols Daughter Lisas Hair Elixir Fortifying Scalp Spray

Speaking of pricey, for the size, this one takes the cake. Other than conditioners, Carol’s Daughter products haven’t really worked for my hair until I tried this fortifying scalp spray.

 

If you don’t have time to wash & deep condition your hair and need to instant relief from the itch, grab this spray and apply directly to your scalp. What I love about the scalp spray is that it is formulated with lots of natural ingredients that you can pronounce like:

• Cedar Leaf Oil
• Rosemary Oil
• Camphor Oil
• Aloe Leaf Oil
• Lemon Extract
• Wheat Protein
• Soy Protein
• Biotin
• Spearmint Oil

 

What are some of your favorite home remedies or products that you use to combat chronic dry scalp issues??

 

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For years, gel has gotten a bad rap.

People assume that using it will make your hair hard, crunchy or leave a dreaded white residue.

The truth is, not all gels are created equal. Many of them are made with alcohol as the primary ingredient, which can cause severe dryness. Due to the natural hair movement, many hair companies are now making their products with natural ingredients which add moisture & shine, along with a great hold.

The best way to apply it to your curls is while your hair is soaking wet, generally after you have washed and detangled.  Scrunch and rake through the hair in small sections, especially if you hair hair is thick (like mine).

Resist the temptation to play with your curls while they are still wet. Allow the product to work its magic while your hair dries. After it dries, spritz with a small amount of water, fluff & shake. Watch those curls pop!!

If you have curly hair and you haven’t invested in a great one (or two), then your curls are missing out! Here are 3 reasons why every curly girl should own gel:

 Definition

Have you ever looked at someone with curly hair and though, wow her curls are poppin? I know I have. Gel gives curly hair that beautiful defined look. It helps curls do what they were naturally made to do!

Anti-Frizz

Down in the south, humidity is every curly girl’s arch nemesis. It turns a perfectly coiled do into a frizzy hot mess. Using gel keeps all the locks in place and prevents you from the bed head look. My daughters both battle frizz. They both have different textures, so they use different gels.

My oldest has kinky curly curls, so Deva Curl Light Defining Gel works best for her. It’s not sticky and provides a soft hold.

My youngest has wavy curly hair. Products that are too heavy weigh down her hair. Miss Jessie’s Multicultural Clear Gel does the trick for her.

Lasting Power

The longer curly hair gets, the more difficult it can be to maintain a style for days on end. In fact, without gel, you will have to retouch your hair daily to get the ultra defined look. Shea Moisture Curl Gel Souffle is hands down, my favorite gel.

I’ve been using it since I became natural 3 years ago. My hair is never crunchy and is always soft to touch.

 

People often mistake a week old hair style for a freshly styled do and I credit it all to my gel! What’s your favorite gel?

 

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One of the most frequently asked questions I get is, “How do I take care of my child’s curls?”

The thing that makes curly hair care so tricky is that what works for one curly haired person may not work for another. Finding the right products is a time consuming task of trial and error, which ultimately can lead to frustration.

I have 4c curls, a thick and kinky grade of hair. My daughters both have different kinds of curls.

Learn Your Curl Pattern

The first key to curly hair care is knowing what kind of curls you have. Certain products work better on different kinds of curls, so knowing your curl pattern is the first step to finding your perfect match.

Hydration

Some parents experience immense frustration while styling their children’s curly hair because the children cry and it is a painful process for all involved.

Curly hair is best manipulated when it is wet-soaking wet is best. You will be able to style the curls and manipulate them better when they are hydrated. Keep a water bottle on hand as the hair dries out.

Condition Weekly

It can be overwhelming to walk into the curly hair care aisle and see all of the conditioners available.  My favorite places to buy products are Target & Sally’s Beauty.

How do you know which conditioner to choose??

My favorite conditioners are thick and contain natural products (free from parabens & sulphates). If a particular line of products works for you, then try using all the products in that line.

There are certain times of the year when my scalp is dry and itchy. For those times, I rely on Mielle Organics Babassu Oil deep conditioner. It has a minty smell and conditions and moisturizes my scalp. I feel like a new person after I’ve used it.

I am often disappointed when I try a new product and it doesn’t work. I’m a self proclaimed product junkie. I’m guilty of buying a new product just because I saw someone else use it, even though I already know what works in my hair.

The Mane Choice shampoos & conditioners work for my hair. They are pricey, but I know that they work.

 

Add Gel for Definition

Most people shy away from gel because they think that it makes their hair hard & dry. The reason why is because some gels contain alcohol which can dry out the hair.

Find a gel that contains natural products. Gel cuts down on frizz and can make a style last all day, even all week! If the gel leaves a white residue on your hair, then it isn’t the right one for you.

A great gel will define your curls, leaving them soft, manageable & frizz free.

Curly Hair Care is Trial & Error

Don’t get discouraged if the products that other curly haired people suggest don’t work for you. It may take a few tries to get it right. Until you figure out the right combination of products, try product swapping with another curly haired friend. That way you don’t waste money on products that just sit in your bathroom.

 

Also know that curly hair changes. When my daughters were young, their curls were different than they are now. It took some trial and error to find the right products that worked for them.

You may also want to consider investing in a monthly subscription box for curly hair like Curlbox.com or Curlkit.com.

Curly girls, what methods work for you?

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