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Raising Biracial Kids in Today's World

Curly Hair Care

How to Achieve Beautiful French Braids for Mixed Kids Curly Hair

March 18, 2018 By Diedre Leave a Comment

Today on the blog I am welcoming Dione Laufenberg, the author of  Laufty Life. She’s sharing her tips on how to create a french braid on curly hair.

Achieving french braids on mixed curly hair can prove to be a challenge. In this post, you'll learn a few tricks to make styling french braids much easier!

The problem with French Braids on Curly Hair

As we counted down the days to our trip to Disney World, I asked my youngest daughter Misha what she was most looking forward to seeing or doing.  She replied that she couldn’t wait to meet Elsa.

Although it has been 5 years since Disney released Frozen in theaters, the popularity of its break out stars Elsa and Anna has not waned.  Their popularity has revived the classic French Braid hairstyle.

A single French braid in the case of Elsa, and a double French braid for Anna.  Consequently, the hairstyle has been requested by my daughters on several occasions.  Unfortunately, I have found it to be a less than ideal choice for curly hair because it doesn’t seem to last.

Which prompted me to experiment until I found a solution.  Here is my workaround on how to create a lasting protective French braid for mixed girls with natural curly hair.

Achieving french braids on mixed curly hair can prove to be a challenge. In this post, you'll learn a few tricks to make styling french braids much easier!

The Solution for Mixed Kid’s Curly Hair

Giana has a 3b/3a curl pattern and Misha has a similar texture with some of her hair around the perimeter falling looser into a 2c wavy pattern.

Finding the perfect routine for curly hair can be a frustrating journey. The trial and error of different products and routines often leads to various mistakes. Here are 6 tips to take some of the frustration out of styling curly hair.

Whenever I braided their hair into a French braid,  I noticed that as the hair dried and the curls reverted the smoothness around the edges dissipated.

The braid became frizzy and I would have to unbraid it and do it all over again within a day or two.  In my opinion, a protective style that doesn’t last 3 days or more and cannot be morphed into a second style isn’t worth my time.

After doing box braids for the first time on Giana’s hair and seeing that style resulted in longevity, I changed my styling mindset.

Giana wore the braids for just short of two weeks, I realized that I could spend a little more time upfront and create styles for my mixed daughter’s hair that would carry them through the school week.

I noticed that by sectioning the hair into 1 inch by 1-inch squares and smoothing each section, the curls were stretched and subsequently remained more tamed.  I wondered if I could use this same technique to create a sustainable braided style.

Achieving french braids on mixed curly hair can prove to be a challenge. In this post, you'll learn a few tricks to make styling french braids much easier!

I sectioned the hair first, and then added the French Braid.  This  created a French braid with a little more pizazz and longevity.  Here are the full instructions on how to create a French braid on Mixed kid’s hair that lasts!

Recipe for French Braid Style for Mixed Kid’s Curly Hair

  1. Co-wash hair
  2. Deep Condition 30 minutes
  3. Add leave in conditioner
  4. Layer an oil to seal
  5. Apply a curl crème
  6. Use rubber bands and section hair into 1×1 inch squares.
  7. Smooth each section with a comb
  8. Use the sections to create a French Braid

 

Achieving french braids on mixed curly hair can prove to be a challenge. In this post, you'll learn a few tricks to make styling french braids much easier!

Maintaining the Style

As we usually do, we spritz the hair throughout the week with a mixture of water, oil and aloe juice.  We also added a little mouse to smooth down and hold the braids.  Misha rocked this style from Monday through Friday.

On the fifth day we unbraided the French Braids.  Then added more moisture and she was able to wear the sectioned hair as a second style.  We could have also converted those sections into twist.

It can be disheartening to disappoint our mixed daughters when we cannot achieve a commercialized style that is meant for straight Caucasian hair.  Elsa is defining a standard of beauty and reinforcing one image into young girl’s minds.   We have taken that frustration as inspiration to create unique hairstyles that we share on Laufty Life.

To my delight, these styles have all the straight-haired girls at their schools asking my daughters, who did your hair?  Hearing this is music to my momma ears!!

Achieving french braids on mixed curly hair can prove to be a challenge. In this post, you'll learn a few tricks to make styling french braids much easier!

Dione Laufenberg is the founder of Laufty Life.  She is mommy to two perfectly blended beauties who recognized the challenges of caring for their hair.  As an expert in wellness and relaxation, she has a Bachelors degree in Psychology and license for massage therapy, nail technician and Aesthetician.

Having owned a boutique day spa that offered luxury spa treatments she has a passion for self care, preventative healthcare and pampering.  Now channeling her knowledge into her writing, she gives a unique narrative to being a black women raising biracial daughters.  Laufty Life is a resource for biracial children’s hair.  Providing regimens, hairstyles and positive self love tips.

 

How I Teach My Kids to Love & Embrace Their Curly Hair

February 19, 2018 By Diedre 5 Comments

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Curls definitely have a mind of their own. Caring for them is no cut and dry easy task.

One of the trickiest parts of raising a biracial child is teaching them to embrace both sides of themselves, especially if their features do not match yours. There are a few ways to connect with your children, even if they don't share all of your features.

Both of my girls were born with curls that changed. They both had dark, wavy curls that morphed into more defined brown curls.

I’ve had to change shampoos, conditioners, leave-ins and gels to figure out how to make their curls pop (which was often times time consuming, pricey and downright frustrating).

When my oldest daughter was around 3 years old, she told me she wanted straight her like her grandma. I was heartbroken. Not that she wanted to be like her grandmother, but that she didn’t see the beauty in her curls.

One of the trickiest parts of raising a biracial child is teaching them to embrace both sides of themselves, especially if their features do not match yours. There are a few ways to connect with your children, even if they don't share all of your features.

After that, she frequently asked me why she didn’t have straight hair like Ariel or Rapunzel.

One of the trickiest parts of raising a biracial child is teaching them to embrace both sides of themselves. Both of my children have lighter skin than me. They both have brown eyes and curly hair. As a black mom, that is a sense of pride for me. That with all the hard work of carrying them, there is a little bit of me inside.

One of the trickiest parts of raising a biracial child is teaching them to embrace both sides of themselves, especially if their features do not match yours. There are a few ways to connect with your children, even if they don't share all of your features.

The fact that my daughter didn’t want to embrace some of her blackness was hurtful, so I wanted to find a way to show her how to love the skin she’s in.

Books

My husband and I were already intentional about the kinds of books we read to her. We found as many books as we could with little tan/brown girls on the cover that mentioned self love. The books did most of the work for us, discussing how the main characters embraced their skin color and curls.

One of the trickiest parts of raising a biracial child is teaching them to embrace both sides of themselves, especially if their features do not match yours. There are a few ways to connect with your children, even if they don't share all of your features.

What I found, however, is that what she was seeing on t.v. & who she was surrounded by daily was having a greater impact than what we read in books.

Representation in Daily Interactions

We live in town with my husband’s family. So naturally, we see more of the white side of the family. My parents are Jamaicans, and it is important to me that my girls retain our culture, so I make every effort to have more time spent with my family.

One of the trickiest parts of raising a biracial child is teaching them to embrace both sides of themselves, especially if their features do not match yours. There are a few ways to connect with your children, even if they don't share all of your features.

They get to see that curls are natural in all different forms, and can come in different textures, and in people with varying skin tones.

Nothing speaks representation like seeing it in the flesh.

We also make sure to have play dates with other children who are biracial or different ethnicities.

Intentional Selection of TV Shows

While I am an avid Disney Princess movie fan, many of the older Disney Princess movies did not showcase diversity. Now, thanks to movies like Princess & the Frog & Moana, my girls can see that princesses come in a variety of shades.

I also love that shows like Nella the Princess Knight & Doc McStuffins showcase smart, brave brown skin colors that are embracing who they are.

I Embraced My Curls

When my youngest was a baby, I decided to take the plunge into natural hair. I finally let go of the straight hair is beautiful message that was fed to me over the years.

It wasn’t met without resistance, tears and frustration. 4 years later, I love that my girls touch my hair and tell me how beautiful it is. They make comments about curly hair like mommy.

They even look at me strange if I’m wearing different protective styles that are straight. They wonder where my curls have gone. My curls represent more than just a style.

My curls connect me to my daughters in such a powerful way.

One of the trickiest parts of raising a biracial child is teaching them to embrace both sides of themselves, especially if their features do not match yours. There are a few ways to connect with your children, even if they don't share all of your features.

If you are raising a child by adoption that doesn’t look like you, it is your responsibility to find representation for your child to help them embrace their curls. They will not be able to mirror you if you are not a minority, so you will have to seek that represenation in other places.

Take them to museums that showcase diversity and history.

Travel around the country and internationally.

Have playdates with other multiracial families or families of color.

Be intentional about the movies you go see.

Be intentional about the books you select.

If you can’t do their hair, find someone who can.

Invest in products that work for your child’s curl pattern.

Don’t assume that your children will grow up with self love. Teach them to embrace their curls by talking about them.

Are you a total loss when it comes to styling your child’s curly hair? Purchase my e-book, The Frustration-Free Guide to Curly Hair to answer all your curly hair questions + get a guide to products by curl type! 

Take all the frustration out of curly hair!  This ebook will answer all your curly hair questions + get a guide to products by curl type!

 

 

 

6 Mistakes Curly Girls Make With Their Hair (And How to Correct Them)

February 8, 2018 By Diedre Leave a Comment

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I first went natural and stopped getting relaxers 3 years ago.

I fought the natural movement with a vengeance, but ultimately succumbed so that I could have a healthy head of hair and less irritation from chemicals on my scalp.

Initially I had no idea what I was doing and made many mistakes. I watched YouTube videos, took recommendations from friends, but many days were met with frustration when it was time to do my hair.

Finding the perfect routine for curly hair can be a frustrating journey. The trial and error of different products and routines often leads to mistakes.

Both of my daughters have curly hair, and when I look back at old pictures, it was clear that I was a little lost.

Now that I’ve learned a thing or two about different curl patters and what each one needs, I want to share how to avoid some of the mistakes I made.

Buying Every Curly Haired Product on the Market

Every product marketed for curly-haired people isn’t for you! Different textures have varying properties.

For example, wavy curly hair typically doesn’t do well with heavy, oily products. My youngest has wavy hair and we cannot share products.

Knowing your curl type and what it needs is the first step is discovering which product will work for you. Check out the curl chart below to identify your curl type.

Finding the perfect routine for curly hair can be a frustrating journey. The trial and error of different products and routines often leads to various mistakes. Here are 6 tips to take some of the frustration out of styling curly hair.

Styling Curls Dry

Ouch!

Curly hair needs water and moisture to flourish! Water makes the curls easier to manage and gives you a fresh palate to work with. Styling curly hair with a comb or a brush while dry can be extremely painful.

Do yourself a favor and spritz those locks with water before jumping in to a style.

Leaving Hair Out

The weather can be tough on curls.

One of my favorite ways to protect my curls is by using a protective style.

Finding the perfect routine for curly hair can be a frustrating journey. The trial and error of different products and routines often leads to mistakes.

My natural hair is braided down and the faux locs were crocheted into my hair, so they are getting a break from the everyday wear and tear.

I rarely leave my girl’s hair out unless we are headed to a special occasion. They typically wear buns, braids or other styles that keep their ends secured and protected from split ends and exposure to harsh climates.

Skipping Gel

Gel has gotten a bad rap over the years. When most people think of gel, they think of a brown, thick goopy mess. I’m here to tell you that gel is a staple in my home and we use it on all 3 textures of curls!

 

It keeps the flyaways at bay, and gives us a sleek, clean look. It is also great for defining our curls.

The gel I use for my 4C hair is thicker than what my daughters use because it would weigh down their curls.

Neglecting a Night Routine

Not only is it important to protect curls during the day, but it is equally as important to protect them at night. In my Multiracial Motherhood Facebook group, one of the mistakes that we discuss frequently is leaving hair free at night.

Curly hair should be secured by a satin scarf or bonnet.

My daughters wear a braid to keep their hair from tangling as they toss and turn during the night.

Another easy way to keep curls protected is to invest in a satin pillowcase. Some people are wild sleepers, so the scarf or bonnet frequently comes off.

Overmanipulation

Too much heat or product can be damaging to your curls. Overwashing can also strip the hair of the natural oils it needs to remain healthy.

Most curly girls co-wash in lieu of a regular shampoo/conditioner routine. I personally still enjoy using a moisturizing shampoo to cleanse my hair from all the products I’ve used that week. Finding a good shampoo free of sulfates (which leave the hair dry) is the perfect way to eliminate sweat, product buildup and dirt from your hair.

If you are prone to dry scalp, using a combination of a clarifying shampoo & moisturizing shampoo can cleanse your scalp while leaving your hair moisturized. Using products with tea tree, peppermint oil or plain ACV can work wonders for a dry scalp.

It is best to let your hair air dry as much as possible. Using gel can reduce the amount of frizz that can occur from air drying.

Do you need more help understanding your curly hair?

Learning how to deal with your curly locks can be frustrating. Having the proper tools & education about your curl type makes all the difference. Use this guide to give you the tools you need for beautiful curly hair!

Let me help! My e-book, The Frustration-Free Guide to Curly Hair is available for only $8!

A Curly Girl’s Guide to Remedies for a Dry, Itchy Scalp

September 24, 2017 By Diedre 1 Comment

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A dry, itchy scalp can be brought on by stress, product buildup, change in temperature, or chronic skin conditions. The worst part is that a dry scalp often leaves you with embarassing white flakes.

A dry, itchy scalp can be brought on by stress, change in temperature, or chronic skin conditions. Here are a few products to give your scalp relief.

How do you get rid of a a dry, itchy scalp? Here are a few natural remedies & products to chase the dryness away.

Here are a few natural remedies & products to chase the dryness away.

Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle Shampoo & Conditioner

One of my favorite YouTube vloggers mentioned this duo on her channel and I’ve been dying to try them for years. Problem is, we don’t live anywhere near a Trader Joe’s. My oh, so kind family member brought these babies back from out of town and my hubby & I have been hooked ever since!

 

Products containing tea tree tend to be heavily scented. The shampoo & conditioner are lighter in scent than most products designed to attack a dry scalp, but they still pack a punch.

Apple Cider Vinegar

The first time I heard this mentioned, I cringed. And I was extremely skeptical. How could something that smells so strong (and is often used as a marinade) be good for my scalp??

The first time I tried it, I had a scalp flare up from dermatisis and I felt instant relief. The ares of my scalp that I had scratched practically raw burned when the ACV touched it, but my scalp felt so clean afterwards.

I was worried about the smell, but after following up with my regular conditioner, the smell was a thing of the past.

(Essential Oils)Tea Tree, Rosemary & Peppermint Oil

Tea tree (aka melaleuca)oil has antibacterial properties that heal all kinds of scalp issues. Be sure to mix it with another carrier oil (like olive, jojoba, coconut, etc) to prevent your scalp from burning. The smell is VERY strong, so if you are sensitive to smell, you can add a few drops to your conditioner.

I personally love Young Living tea tree oil. Young Living has a seed to seal guarantee, so I know that I am getting the purest form of tea trea to apply to my scalp. Rosemary oil & peppermint oil are great too!

You can leave it on your scalp as a deep conditioner for about 20 minutes, then rinse out.

Want to learn more about essential oils? Click here——-> Essential Oils

Be careful not to get in your eyes. It burns like no other–and your eye will continue to tingle for hours.

Mielle Organics Babassu Oil & Mint Deep Conditioner

If you’ve been following the blog awhile, then you know that this is hands down, this Mielle Organics conditioner is of my favorites. Not only does it do wonders for soothing a dry, itchy scalp, but it also doubles as a great leave in conditioner.

It is one of the best detangling conditioners that I’ve found to moisturize my hair while treating my scalp. It’s a little pricey, but a staple that will forever be in my possession.

Cantu Apple Cider Vinegar Line

What I appreciate most about Cantu products is the affordability, availability & reliability. Their products will never break the bank & you can find them any & everywhere. When I heard they were coming out with an apple cider root relief line, I ran to my nearest CVS to score these products.

A dry, itchy scalp can be brought on by stress, change in temperature, or chronic skin conditions. Here are a few products to give your scalp relief.

What I love most about these products is that they work on any hairstyle. If you happen to be wearing a protective style, the applicator tip makes it easy to get to your scalp. The tea tree & jojoba oil is pretty thick, so a little bit goes a long way. The only downside to this product is that it can be difficult to dispense, even with an applicator tip.

Carols Daughter Lisas Hair Elixir Fortifying Scalp Spray

Speaking of pricey, for the size, this one takes the cake. Other than conditioners, Carol’s Daughter products haven’t really worked for my hair until I tried this fortifying scalp spray.

 

If you don’t have time to wash & deep condition your hair and need to instant relief from the itch, grab this spray and apply directly to your scalp. What I love about the scalp spray is that it is formulated with lots of natural ingredients that you can pronounce like:

  • Cedar Leaf Oil
  • Rosemary Oil
  • Camphor Oil
  • Aloe Leaf Oil
  • Lemon Extract
  • Wheat Protein
  • Soy Protein
  • Biotin
  • Spearmint Oil

 

What are some of your favorite home remedies or products that you use to combat chronic dry scalp issues??

 

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How Embracing My Naturally Curly Hair Made Me a Better Mother

July 13, 2017 By Diedre 1 Comment

Three years ago, I stopped getting relaxers and embraced my naturally curly hair.

I did so because I had a sensitive scalp and the relaxers irritated it. My dermatologist advised me to go natural. She was light-skinned and had a huge afro.

Part of the reason I went to her was because she was black. I was intrigued by her down to earth nature, her brains and her afro.

I say all the time that representation matters.  In her office, I felt like a little girl. A girl who had someone to look up to. Her words of advice gave me life.

Except, I didn’t want an afro like hers.

Embracing my naturally curly hair made me more confident and self assured as a mother. Those are qualities that I hope to pass on to my biracial daughters.

It worked for her, but I was pretty sure it wasn’t for me. I didn’t even know where that thought came from.

After the last relaxer left me with scalp burns, I asked myself when I continued to torture myself. Especially when my scalp would not heal after giving it a break for months. I decided to take the plunge. I transitioned from February 2014 until October 2014.

Embracing my naturally curly hair made me more confident and self assured as a mother. Those are qualities that I hope to pass on to my biracial daughters.

I wore braids, wigs, weave, watched YouTube and cried. I was frustrated with the two textures of hair. I wondered if I was going to make it and if I had made a huge mistake.

In October of 2014, I took the plunge. I cut off the 2 remaining inches of relaxed hair. Trust me, I did not have a euphoric experience looking into the mirror. I was in shock.

 

Embracing my naturally curly hair made me more confident and self assured as a mother. Those are qualities that I hope to pass on to my biracial daughters.

The next morning, I instantly regretted my decision. How could anyone accept me when I looked like a boy?

Then regret turned into anxiety. What would my coworkers think? They would think I’ve lost my mind! My face! My face is out for the world to see! I had no hair to hide behind.

I bought headbands and wore big earrings. I used accessories to hide behind my fear of how people would perceive my short curls.

Embracing my naturally curly hair made me more confident and self assured as a mother. Those are qualities that I hope to pass on to my biracial daughters.

I’m not quite sure when it happened, but one day, I got tired of hiding. I got tired of being stressed if I couldn’t find a headband or scarf to match my outfit.

I made a decision to be happy with me, and all my natural beauty.

I embraced my short hair and my curls. I found products and techniques that made me love my naturally curly hair.

I found a confidence that can’t be explained.

Embracing my naturally curly hair made me more confident and self assured as a mother. Those are qualities that I hope to pass on to my biracial daughters.

And you know the best moment of all? When my daughter said, “Mama, you have curly hair like me!” In that moment, all my internal struggle was worth it.

Embracing my naturally curly hair made me more confident and self assured as a mother. Those are qualities that I hope to pass on to my biracial daughters.

Now when strangers complement my girls and their naturally curly hair,  I can smile with pride. I know that I am setting helping to widen their view of what beauty looks like.

They will be bombarded with images online, in magazines and on television. They will question whether or not their curls are enough.

I want them to look at themselves with pride and love their curls. If they choose to straighten it, I hope it will be for themselves, and not to conform.

I want them to know that their naturally curly hair and their natural beauty, is enough.

Are you a total loss when it comes to styling your child’s naturally curly hair? Purchase my e-book, The Frustration-Free Guide to Curly Hair to answer all your curly hair questions + get a guide to products by curl type! 

Are you at a loss when it comes to curly hair? Does wash day make you cringe? Check out this e-book for a guide to all things curly hair care.

 

 

3 Reasons Why Everyone with Curly Hair Should Own Gel

July 6, 2017 By Diedre 3 Comments

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For years, gel has gotten a bad rap.

People assume that using it will make your hair hard, crunchy or leave a dreaded white residue.

The truth is, not all gels are created equal. Many of them are made with alcohol as the primary ingredient, which can cause severe dryness. Due to the natural hair movement, many hair companies are now making their products with natural ingredients which add moisture & shine, along with a great hold.

For years, gel has gotten a bad rap. Using the right gel on curly hair adds shine, hold, moisture, definition and has anti-frizz power.

The best way to apply it to your curls is while your hair is soaking wet, generally after you have washed and detangled.  Scrunch and rake through the hair in small sections, especially if you hair hair is thick (like mine).

Resist the temptation to play with your curls while they are still wet. Allow the product to work its magic while your hair dries. After it dries, spritz with a small amount of water, fluff & shake. Watch those curls pop!!

For years, gel has gotten a bad rap. Using the right gel on curly hair adds shine, hold, moisture, definition and has anti-frizz power.

If you have curly hair and you haven’t invested in a great one (or two), then your curls are missing out! Here are 3 reasons why every curly girl should own gel:

 Definition

Have you ever looked at someone with curly hair and though, wow her curls are poppin? I know I have. Gel gives curly hair that beautiful defined look. It helps curls do what they were naturally made to do!

Anti-Frizz

Down in the south, humidity is every curly girl’s arch nemesis. It turns a perfectly coiled do into a frizzy hot mess. Using gel keeps all the locks in place and prevents you from the bed head look. My daughters both battle frizz. They both have different textures, so they use different gels.

For years, gel has gotten a bad rap. Using the right gel on curly hair adds shine, hold, moisture, definition and has anti-frizz power.

My oldest has kinky curly curls, so Deva Curl Light Defining Gel works best for her. It’s not sticky and provides a soft hold.

For years, gel has gotten a bad rap. Using the right gel on curly hair adds shine, hold, moisture, definition and has anti-frizz power.

My youngest has wavy curly hair. Products that are too heavy weigh down her hair. Miss Jessie’s Multicultural Clear Gel does the trick for her.

For years, gel has gotten a bad rap. Using the right gel on curly hair adds shine, hold, moisture, definition and has anti-frizz power.

Lasting Power

The longer curly hair gets, the more difficult it can be to maintain a style for days on end. In fact, without gel, you will have to retouch your hair daily to get the ultra defined look. Shea Moisture Curl Gel Souffle is hands down, my favorite gel.

For years, gel has gotten a bad rap. Using the right gel on curly hair adds shine, hold, moisture, definition and has anti-frizz power.I’ve been using it since I became natural 3 years ago. My hair is never crunchy and is always soft to touch.

 

For years, gel has gotten a bad rap. Using the right gel on curly hair adds shine, hold, moisture, definition and has anti-frizz power.

People often mistake a week old hair style for a freshly styled do and I credit it all to my gel! What’s your favorite gel?

 

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Instagram post 2191787773055428693_2111854329 People have been testing my gansta lately.  My kids, hubby, coworkers, family...errrbody ya'll.  It's tough to be Christ like when the human in you feels like people take advantage of your low drama, easy going self. You want to straight up tell them about themselves,  but then the Holy Spirit in you convicts you to do right. In totally transparency,  it sometimes feels dead wrong. But as I'm growing in my faith, I realize that if I'm not in God's will, that feels more wrong then the temporary satisfaction of showing people that bougie girls have some sass too. So pray for ya girl ya'll.  Spiritual maturity ain't easy.
Instagram post 2190173466832091804_2111854329 It's Cyber Monday ya'll!!! I thought I was done shopping, but Young Living dropped such amazing deals on Thieves products that I had to snag a few things. I love that I've been able to switch out the household cleaners in my house that have questionable ingredients with Thieves products. I literally can clean my house top to bottom with thieves!
Last week I took out my braids, gave my hair a break then put them back in. Before putting them back in, I filled a bowl 1/4 full of water & 2 squirts of thieves dish soap. I was amazed at the amount of dirt that came out & the cleaning power of thieves! With no sulfates,  dyes, perfumes or phosphates,  I knew this was the perfect gentle cleaner for my hair.
I've heard of people washing their synthetic hair with ACV to get rid of the residue from sitting in warehouses,  so it's nice to have another plant based option. Run & tell your girlfriends that thieves can handle all the things! And today Thieves products are 20% off, so if you aren't a member,  shoot me a DM so I can help you take advantage of the amazing sale prices today! And I'll even throw in $20 to help you on your journey!
Instagram post 2188580106283284456_2111854329 We've been so busy with the last Farmer's  market & family the last few days that I can't believe the weekend is already here!! We managed to have a little quiet time together last night after the kids went to bed. Next month we'll celebrate our 10th anniversary & we can't get over how quickly it went by!! We've grown as individuals, parents & most importantly as a couple.  My hubby's family has a long line of divorced couples, so it was important to us both to not grow apart. We talk through our issues even when it's hard. Our last silent treatment lasted 3 days & it almost killed me. Our stubbornness kept us silent while we cried on the inside.  We vowed to never do that again because our relationship is too precious & time waits for no man. These little things keep us connected & reminds us of our vows. How do you keep your marriage fresh & alive?
Instagram post 2187862426542797801_2111854329 Listen, when you see pictures of people with their kids posing & smiling during the holidays,  you need to tell.those people congratulations because kids (and sometimes husbands) don't cooperate.  This Thanksgiving,  this is as good as I could get.
I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving!! Our family celebrated with my husband's side of the family & today we have another family get together....after my online Black Friday deals of course!! This year the Young Living sale is the one I'm most excited about. Wellness for my family trumps everything else (well wellness ties with matching family 🎁🎄 pjs).
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