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Raising Biracial Kids in Today's World

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Does Having A Rainbow Baby Heal The Brokenness of A Miscarriage?

October 18, 2018 By Diedre Leave a Comment

I had a miscarriage, and then I got pregnant with a rainbow baby in the same year. (For those of you that are unfamiliar, a rainbow baby is a baby born after a miscarriage, stillborn or neonatal death)

After the miscarriage, I wasn’t sure if I was going to be okay again.

I’m a school counselor, so I’m pretty familiar with the stages of grief. I know the common signs of depression.

But living it was a different story.

I often felt like there was a black cloud over my head and I was simply going through the motions.

In fact, the day before I found out I was pregnant, I went to the dentist for a cleaning. They had in my chart that I was due for a baby the next month. The hygienist cleaning my teeth had no clue that I had lost the baby 7 months prior. She had no idea the pain she caused me by asking if I had the baby early.

Laying on the dentist chair with my mouth open and having to utter the words I had a miscarriage again left me feeling vulnerable and a shame that I didn’t deserve to feel. Just as I was trying to feel “normal” again, I couldn’t escape the tragedy that had happened to my body.

Fast forward to the next day. I had just dropped my cousin off at the airport and decided to get Starbucks before beginning my work day. After drinking half of my coffee, I felt an overwhelming nausea wash over my body. It was so strong that I searched my medicine cabinets for some medicine that I had taken the last time I was PREGNANT.

Since the miscarriage, my husband and I decided that we would try again to have a baby. Every month that didn’t yield 2 positive lines was another month I tried to pretend not to be disappointed.

I’m generally a healthy person, so the fact that I was searching for medicine to cure the nausea was a hint that I might be pregnant. After so many disappointing tests in the months prior, I couldn’t believe my eyes when the test came out positive.

After suffering from a miscarraige, a rainbow baby often brings joy to the family who has dealt with a significant loss. But does it truly heal the loss?

I jumped up and down. I screamed. I cried. I thanked God.

And then the anxiety set in. 

I was excited last time. I told people last time. I made social media announcements. And look what happened.

Fear followed anxiety and the happy tears suddenly changed to fearful ones.

I told myself that I wouldn’t make a doctor’s appointment until I felt like I was close to the 2nd trimester. My miscarriage happened at 10 weeks, so if I could just get past that time, in my mind I would be safe.

But every day that went by, I was stricken with fear. I decided to make a doctor’s appointment in hopes of settling my fear. My doctor’s sent me to the hospital to check my HCG levels to ensure that we would see a baby for my first ultrasound.

I can’t thank them enough for thinking ahead and trying to spare me any potential pain.

Thankfully my HCG levels were in the normal range, so my husband and I went for our first ultrasound at 7 weeks. As I listened to the heartbeat and stared at the ultrasound picture, I tried to get excited. I really did. I tried to remember what it was like to feel nothing but pure euphoria.

But I couldn’t.

Sitting in the ultrasound room reminded me of being there months prior while the ultrasound tech uttered the words no mom wants to hear, “I’m so sorry, I can’t find a heartbeat.”

My husband held my hand and beamed with joy. He noticed the look on my face and asked me what was wrong. I was fighting back tears because I didn’t want to cry in public. I was so scared that our little miracle would be snatched away  like our last.

The further I advanced in my pregnancy, the less those overwhelming feelings of fear and anxiety took over. I think I began to feel at peace when I felt him move. His kicks felt like I was growing a baby ninja.

I didn’t have time to get frustrated, because I remembered what it felt like to long for those kicks. In fact, after I had a DNC, I often thought I felt a kick. And then I was reminded that I was no longer carrying a baby.

The day my son was born made all the negative and positive feelings that I’d felt over the course of my pregnancy collide. I had a successful c-section and gave birth to a beautiful and healthy baby boy.

Julian is my last baby and our family is complete.

After suffering from a miscarraige, a rainbow baby often brings joy to the family who has dealt with a significant loss. But does it truly heal the loss?

But having a miscarriage has forever changed me. There are times that I sit in church and I remember the feelings of depression. I remember waking up crying and falling asleep in a pool of tears.

A loss, no matter how early in your pregnancy is still a loss. Occasionally, my heart still aches for the one that I lost. Having my son is a beautiful blessing, but he doesn’t replace the one before him.

During my pregnancy, I struggled when people asked me how many kids I had. I felt like I was forgetting my last baby if I said he was my 3rd child, or if I referenced my 3rd pregnancy. It felt like I was living a lie to not tell that it was my 4th.

But it also hurt to remember that I lost one before him. I also couldn’t take the look of horror and/or discomfort on the faces of women when I told them that I’d had a miscarriage.

I don’t blame them. I didn’t know what to say or how to act towards someone who’d had a miscarriage until I’d had one myself. Then I felt bad for not being there more for my friends who had experienced one before me.

So does having a rainbow baby heal the hurt of a miscarriage?

After suffering from a miscarraige, a rainbow baby often brings joy to the family who has dealt with a significant loss. But does it truly heal the loss?

Yes and No.

The rainbow baby doesn’t replace the baby you lost, but it does help you begin to put the pieces back together again. Babies represent new beginnings and can help your heart overcome the damage that miscarriage causes.

But without acknowledging your hurt, and seeking medical attention if you experience depression, having a rainbow baby cannot heal your pain.

After suffering from a miscarraige, a rainbow baby often brings joy to the family who has dealt with a significant loss. But does it truly heal the loss?

It’s okay to miss the baby you lost and love your rainbw baby at the same time. The conflict of grieving and rejoicing often causes pain that so many women can relate to, however those feelings are normal.

 

 

3 Tips To Make Outings With Three Kids (Much) Easier

September 24, 2018 By Diedre 12 Comments

This post is sponsored by Baby K’Tan, but all opinions are my own. 

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been out with my three kids and people look at me with pity, or comment about how full my hands are.

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement.

I could give you the cliche, my hands are full, but so is my heart, but if I’m being totally honest, some days my hands are REALLY full. There’s nothing that could have prepared me for having a third child–not even growing up as one of four.

To complicate things even further, my husband is a farmer and many days during harvest season I am (semi) solo parenting.

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement. Here are a few tips to make outings with 3 kids manageable & enjoyable.

When my son was first born, I shied away from outings with all three kids because…well…fear.

How would I manage life with three kids? How can outings that used to be fun with 2 kids be fun with three kids?

I learned by trial and error, and some days I’m still learning what works best. Here are a few words of advice from a (semi) solo parent:

Baby Wearing Will Be Your Best Friend

We absolutely LOVE spending time on the farm. It allows us to spend time outside in nature AND spend quality time with my husband while he works.

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement. Here are a few tips to make outings with 3 kids manageable & enjoyable.

Since the baby is too little to run around with the animals like his sisters, wearing him in our Baby K’tan affords him the same farm experience as the rest of his family!

It also allows my husband to work hands free with baby in tow.

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement. Here are a few tips to make outings with 3 kids manageable & enjoyable.

And the best part about daddy baby wearing is that mommy gets a break!

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement. Here are a few tips to make outings with 3 kids manageable & enjoyable.

Pack For Every Emergency Possible

One of the hardest parts of transitioning from 2 kids to 3 is preparing to leave the house. Between my middle child and baby the age difference is 4 years, so I almost forgot what having a baby was like.

My girls are old enough to dress themselves, but they still get cranky when they are hungry, thirsty or tired, but they can tell me what’s wrong.

When I first started taking the 3 of them on all day or half day outings, I would pack for the baby, but sometimes forget about the girls. It was like my brain was on autopilot!

After taking a few day trips and returning with cranky kids & a migraine to boot, I realized that the mommy brain excuse was not going to cut it anymore. Thanks to the mother of all diaper bags, the Baby K’tan Weekender Diaper Bag, I have enough room to carry whatever I need for all 3 kids.

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement. Here are a few tips to make outings with 3 kids manageable & enjoyable.

Before my son was born, my girls were too big for a diaper bag, so I often used my purse as a post-diaper bag. The problem with that is there were always crumbs or something wet (ewww) in my purse.

One of the features I love about this bag is that it comes with a built-in antibacterial wet bag!

I also love that it comes with a changing pad. Whether we are at the farm, Target, farmer’s market or grocery store, I can be prepared to change baby boy anywhere we go.

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement. Here are a few tips to make outings with 3 kids manageable & enjoyable.

Another amazing feature is the full-size insulated cooler pocket. We live in south Georgia, and summer seems to last most of the year. My girls are always thirsty, and now that the baby has moved on to solids, I usually have some baby food and a bottle in his bag. This feature allows me to keep all of their stuff cold while out in the Georgia sun.

Outings With Three Kids Requires Flexibility

Life with three kids changes things significantly. You have to go to sleep earlier. Rise earlier. Make more lists. Plan in advance. Say no.

And even when you do all those things, life happens. Accidents happen. You have to be able to roll with the punches or you will go crazy.

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement. Here are a few tips to make outings with 3 kids manageable & enjoyable.

Take it from this type A mama. I’ve learned how to make things easier by putting in a little extra time and effort into the things I can control, but the things I can’t will not drive me crazy.

When people look at three child families, they are often met with judgement. Here are a few tips to make outings with 3 kids manageable & enjoyable.

Some of the myths you’ve heard about raising three kids are true (i.e  you are outnumbered & it’s hard to have one on one time with your kids), but your heart is really just as full as your hands. I promise.

 

 

 

The Truth About Breastfeeding: What No One Wants To Tell You

August 25, 2018 By Diedre 11 Comments

This post is sponsored by Baby K’tan, but all thoughts and opinions are my own. 

I always knew that when I had children I would breastfeed–or at least try.

My first image of breastfeeding was from my mother. I remember her nursing my brothers, so it was normal to me.

Outside of my home, I don’t remember seeing images of other black women breastfeeding. When I had my own family, I remember the judgement from people (even friends) about how long or how much I was breastfeeding.

With no other mirror than my mother, I was often hurt (and frankly annoyed) by people’s judgments. That’s why I’m so excited about the 6th annual Black Breastfeeding Week.

Many women are scared of breastfeeding beacuse of the myths that still exist. I'm sharing a few truths that breastfeeding moms don't always want to admit.

Why is there a Black Breastfeeding Week? The most recent CDC data show that 75% of white women have ever breastfed versus 58.9% of black women. Are you surprised?

Through my own personal journey, there are a few things that I’ve learned about breastfeeding that women aren’t always willing to share. Let me break it down for you:

Breastfeeding Doesn’t Always Hurt

When people find out I breastfeed, sometimes they’ll ask, “doesn’t it hurt?”

Or they’ll tell me that they couldn’t continue because it hurt too much. And honestly, it hurt in the beginning. My two youngest kids have KILLER suction, so it hurt and I was sore for awhile.

Now that I’ve gotten into the groove of things, I don’t have pain anymore. My lanolin is tucked away to be used as lip balm.

Many women are scared of breastfeeding beacuse of the myths that still exist. I'm sharing a few truths that breastfeeding moms don't always want to admit.

Your Baby Will Pinch And Scratch You

One of the sweetest parts of breastfeeding is seeing how content your children are while they nurse. They will often take a break to smile at you, or gaze lovingly into your eyes.

What I wasn’t prepared for was the pinching and scratching.

Maybe because it’s been four years since I’ve had a baby, or maybe because I’m now raising a son in addition to my two girls, but I think my son pitches and scratches more than his sisters did.

As he lovingly stares into my eyes, he also flails his arms around, reaches into my shirt, and pinches and scratches me while he nurses.

My daughters even asked why he was scratching my boobies. I did not have a good answer.

People Will Judge You

You’ll be told so many things about breastfeeding that your head will spin.

They’ll tell you that you are doing it too long, or not long enough.

People will tell you that you nurse too often or that you should’ve introduced the bottle sooner.

They’ll tell you that you’re spoiling the baby if you want to exclusively breastfeed.

Many women are scared of breastfeeding beacuse of the myths that still exist. I'm sharing a few truths that breastfeeding moms don't always want to admit.

My favorite is when people give you the disgusted look for continuing to breastfeed when your child gets teeth.

I ignore the haters. I choose to breastfeed because I can and because it’s the best choice for my baby, so I could care less what others think–even if the opinions come from family and friends.

You Can Breastfeed in Public Discreetly

I get it. We’re in the era of free the nipple and all that jazz. But some people just don’t feel comfortable breastfeeding in public without a cover.

And some babies don’t like breastfeeding with a cover. How do you compromise with a baby?

Many women are scared of breastfeeding beacuse of the myths that still exist. I'm sharing a few truths that breastfeeding moms don't always want to admit.

With baby #3, baby wearing has been the perfect compromise. With the Baby K’tan I can breastfeed my son on the go discreetly, hands free, and without worry of him getting distracted by all the outside stimuli.

Because let’s face it, when babies get old enough to know what’s going on around them, breastfeeding gets tougher.

I also love that the Baby K’tan offers versatility. Most babies like being held a certain way to nurse. My son loves been swaddled & cuddled. Baby wearing allows me to give him what he craves and be hands free!

When It’s Over, You Will Miss It

This was the part I wasn’t prepared for.

My oldest was 14 months old when I weaned her. She was walking, talking, eating table food and even drinking regular milk. I realized that she was breastfeeding just to maintain the connection with me, and for comfort.

Honestly, I was over

it.

I didn’t enjoy the time that used to be so sweet and I was ready to have my body back. Weaning wasn’t easy, nor was it fun.

Many women are scared of breastfeeding beacuse of the myths that still exist. I'm sharing a few truths that breastfeeding moms don't always want to admit.

We did the cry it out method for 3 nights, and then I was free.

I should’ve been happy, but I was heartbroken. No one told me that weaning her, meant weaning my attachment to our bond.

Breastfeeding can be challenging, but with all of the tools available to moms now, the is easier today than it was 10 years ago.

Many women are scared of breastfeeding beacuse of the myths that still exist. I'm sharing a few truths that breastfeeding moms don't always want to admit.

If you want to breastfeed, work past the myths and find a support group of women who can encourage  and support you through your breastfeeding journey.

5 Questions Every Mom Asks Herself After Having A Baby

August 21, 2018 By Diedre Leave a Comment

This post contains affiliate links.  If you click on the links to make a purchase I will earn a commission. 

The hardest part of postpartum life is returning to life as you knew it.

As you are thrown into your new role, everything around you seems to change and at times can feel very overwhelming.

The hardest part of postpartum life is returning to life as you knew it. Having a baby changes your body, mind & emotions.

Having a baby changes your body, mind & emotions. It often leaves you asking questions and doubting yourself.

Questions like…..

Should I catch up on housework or sleep?

This is a question I ask myself every weekend.

After my son turned 4 months old, I returned to work. After being a stay at home mom for four months, I was thrown back into the chaos of mothering and working outside of the home.

The hardest part of postpartum life is returning to life as you knew it. Having a baby changes your body, mind & emotions.

It seems like I can never catch up on laundry and there are always dishes in the sink.

Cooking dinner often takes hours because I’m stopping to breastfeed in the middle or break up a fight between my daughters.

If the baby is napping, I feel guilty about sleeping myself. 

There have been times that I laid down to nap, but stayed awake thinking of all the things I could be doing.

But after so many days of not getting sleep, I crash. So now I work some, sleep some.

The hardest part of postpartum life is returning to life as you knew it. Having a baby changes your body, mind & emotions.

If I don’t get sleep, I’m no good to anyone. Not even myself. 

When will I be myself again?

Spending hours of snuggle time with your baby can sometimes make returning to work difficult.

The hardest part of postpartum life is returning to life as you knew it. Having a baby changes your body, mind & emotions.

How can I get my husband to understand how I feel?

If I have a newborn, obviously I’m not getting much sleep. And those moms who brag about their babies sleeping 6-7 hours at night? I hate them.

Lack of sleep=being cranky

Being cranky=I’m not the most fun to be around

Getting back on the same page with your husband after having a baby is tough.

There are so many challenges that are present after having a baby like physical complications from childbirth, embracing your postpartum body, juggling a new baby along with older children, not desiring sex, and lack of sleep just to name a few.

Sometimes we make assumptions about our spouse. We think that they should know how tired/hungry/aggravated we are.

Living with a newborn can be taxing, so it’s important to communicate how you feel with your spouse. Don’t assume that he knows how you feel.

The hardest part of postpartum life is returning to life as you knew it. Having a baby changes your body, mind & emotions.

How  do I embrace my postpartum body?

I love fashion, but every time I leave the house, I am usually making a mad dash in and out of my closet. I pick something that resembles and outfit I wore before baby that

A. doesn’t need to be ironed

B. doesn’t look like I stuffed myself into it.

I often get frustrated because even though I can fit into my pre-baby clothes, they don’t fit the same.

My squishy mom belly sits under my pants and finding clothes that don’t accentuate my mid section are always challenging.

Shopping with 3 kids presents a challenge, so now I do most of my shopping online. One of my favorite places to shop is Jane.

With all the Daily Boutique Deals, I can always find clothes that are high quality, fashionable & affordable.

Could my baby be any cuter?

Through all the sleepless nights and frustrating moments, at any given time, your phone is now full of pictures of your baby. You might look rough, but those toothless selfie pictures with you and baby always bring a smile to your face.

Looking into the eyes of your little one reminds you that all the sacrifices you are making are for a good cause.

Babies don’t keep, so soak up all those sweet little moments, even when they keep you up at night.

The hardest part of postpartum life is returning to life as you knew it. Having a baby changes your body, mind & emotions.

Give yourself some grace mama. Having a baby is a beautiful blessing, but it also changes you forever. The way you look at life (and yourself) is different. Motherhood changes you, and it takes time to adjust to the new you.

 

 

3 Ways the Postpartum Period Distances You From the World

May 25, 2018 By Diedre Leave a Comment

Having a baby and becoming a mother is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, however the postpartum period has been somewhat of a challenge.

Having a baby is an exciting, joyous occasion. For the mother, the postpartum period can also be a confusing transition period emotionally, physically & mentally.

This last pregnancy was especially emotional for me due to a previous miscarriage.

After finding out I was having a boy, I found myself getting more and more excited the closer I came to my due date. I was excited about meeting my baby boy, and being able to enjoy some parts of life that I had to alter while pregnant. Things like sleeping on my stomach, having a glass of wine and being able to tie my own shoes.

Having a baby is an exciting, joyous occasion. For the mother, the postpartum period can also be a confusing transition period emotionally, physically & mentally.

My son was born on March 26, 2018. When he was five days old, I was diagnosed with Bells Palsy. The right side of my face began to droop and my right eye watered constantly from staying open.

Having a baby is an exciting, joyous occasion. For the mother, the postpartum period can also be a confusing transition period emotionally, physically & mentally.

The Bells Palsy diagnosis was frustrating because out of my three pregnancies, I felt like my recovery period was progressing the most smoothly.  I suffered a little postpartum depression with both of my previous pregnancies, so I worked hard to avoid some of the things that I knew could contribute to postpartum depression.

I made sure to shower daily (okay, let’s be honest..with a newborn..hmm.. at least every two days), get out of the house and get dressed even if I wasn’t planning on going anywhere.

Those things did help, but during the postpartum period, you are naturally distanced from the world. The late nights, constant diaper changes and feedings have you in a whirlwind. You can barely keep up with the day.

You hate and love company at the same time

Having people over means you have to get dressed. And you want the house clean. But you don’t have the energy to really care about either one.

After my bells palsy diagnosis, I was embarrassed. I didn’t want people to see my face. I was afraid because of my droopy face, I might spit or drool.

 

Having a baby is an exciting, joyous occasion. For the mother, the postpartum period can also be a confusing transition period emotionally, physically & mentally.

But guess what? People came and it made me feel good to have adult conversations. No one made me feel bad about my face. And they brought food!!

You don’t want to share the baby

Days and nights are long. And they run together.

People offer to help, and you want/need help, but you are afraid they won’t do it like you. You know that this sacred baby time will pass, and you want to soak up every moment.

If you are returning to work, you know that someone else will witness most milestones before you.

For that reason, you hold the baby as much as possible. You refuse the offers for relief. The moments that you should be asleep are spent staring lovingly at your baby.

Most of your affection is reserved for the baby

You want to have enough affection to go around for everyone, but the truth is that you are too tired.

Not only are you tired, but your body is crashing from the crazy emotional high.

The postpartum period can be really difficult for husbands. They don’t understand why their wives have an unending supply of kisses and snuggles for baby, but can often be short and withdrawn from them.

My husband and I have discovered that while I am healing, intimacy can be found in more than just the physical. We steal little moments to laugh together and talk about our day.

We still try to steal kisses too. 

Having a baby is an exciting, joyous occasion. For the mother, the postpartum period can also be a confusing transition period emotionally, physically & mentally.

We also tag team parent our older children together which cuts down on either of us feeling overwhelmed and burned out. We take turns spending time with our children separately and together.

Having a baby is an exciting, joyous occasion. For the mother, the postpartum period can also be a confusing transition period emotionally, physically & mentally.

In the moments when I feel down about the postpartum whirlwind, I look at my son and realize that this stage is only temporary. One day when my children ask what it was like when they were babies, I think my mind will drift back to the tender moments, not the sleepless nights and challenging days.

Having a baby is an exciting, joyous occasion. For the mother, the postpartum period can also be a confusing transition period emotionally, physically & mentally.

4 Simple Skin & Hair Tips for Biracial Babies

May 23, 2018 By Diedre 4 Comments

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I became a mom to a biracial baby for the first time in 2011.

I never really thought about how caring for her skin or hair would be different from my own–until I had to.

If you are a parent to a biracial child, finding the right hair and skin products can be a challenge. Biracial babies often need products that provide their hair and skin with more moisture.

When she was about six months old, her straight dark hair changed into a head of beautiful brown curls. I had been using Johnson & Johnson’s baby body/hair wash on her hair.

Her hair started to look dull and frizzy, and one day after a bath a terrible rash was all over her body. After a frantic visit to the pediatrician, I discovered that many brands are not safe for infant (or anyone’s) skin.

At that point, I started paying more attention to the ingredients in the products I was using on her hair and skin.

Fast forward to now and I have 3 beautiful biracial children.

If you have biracial babies, then finding the right products for their hair and skin can provide a challenge. Here are a few quick & easy tips!

Gentle & Natural

After my oldest daughter’s outbreak, I began my search for gentle products for her skin.  Now with three biracial babies, I even pay attention to what I wash their clothes in.

If you are a parent to a biracial child, finding the right hair and skin products can be a challenge. Biracial babies often need products that provide their hair and skin with more moisture.

I used the thinkdirty app (FREE!) to scan items in my home to determine if they were safe for my children. I was amazed at how many everyday products contained harmful chemicals. Don’t believe me? Download the app & see for yourself.

Moisturize

All three of my biracial babies were born with very dry skin. It was red and peeled for the first month. The doctors and nurses suggested washing only once a week, because soaps can be drying to an infant’s skin.

However, when you are intentional about choosing products that are made with all natural ingredients, you don’t have to worry about drying out their skin.

After big blow outs, I washed my babies daily. I liked to let their skin be clean and air dry!

If you have biracial babies, then finding the right products for their hair and skin can provide a challenge. Here are a few quick & easy tips!

My two favorite products to use on my newborn’s skin are castille soap and Young Living Seedlings baby products.

My son loves when I use the baby oil on him. He feels like he is at the baby spa!

Protect

Babies have such delicate skin, so it is an absolute necessity to protect it from the elements (wind, sun, etc). There are so many products on the market now to keep babies protected from the elements.

The rule of thumb for dressing a baby is to dress them to the comfort level of your own. If you are cold, they probably are too. If you are hot, then they are probably sweating too.

If you like to take the baby out for a stroll, use the covers on the stroller to keep the sun out of their eyes and from burning their delicate skin.

Baby wearing is also a helpful way to protect your baby. If you are going to be out in public places, baby wearing keeps people from touching the baby and it limits exposure to the elements.

Click here for a whole list of non-toxic sunscreen options for brown skin.

If you have biracial babies, then finding the right products for their hair and skin can provide a challenge. Here are a few quick & easy tips!

Keep Hair Routines for Biracial Babies Simple

My girls both have beautiful curls and I’m pretty sure my son will have curls too (right now his hair just curls on the ends).

If you were to ask me a simple routine for my girls hair, it will be difficult to narrow down.

For biracial babies, your routine should be simple. They don’t need a ton of products to define their curls. A simple wash will keep it clean and minimal products are needed.

As your child grows and their hair grows, applying a small amount of leave in conditioner can help moisturize and define their curls.

Using products free of parabens, silicones and sulfates ensures that your baby will not come in contact with chemicals that are often found in various products.

Our skin absorbs 60% of what we put on it, so using non-toxic products for baby hair & skin ensures that your baby is exposed to the safest ingredients.

Do you need more skin and hair tips for biracial babies? Are you looking for a list of non-toxic products that are gentle on your little one’s skin? For only $20, the Curly Hair & Skin Care for Babies & Toddlers E-book gives you tips for nighttime care, tips for handling cradle cap, a bonus list of YouTube vloggers to follow and so much more!! Click here if you want to purchase.

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Back in December, Justin & I took a baecation. It Back in December, Justin & I took a baecation.

It had been a few years since we'd had a vacation without kids.

We had no idea how desperately we needed the trip to reconnect.

Having the opportunity to talk to each other uninterrupted was so magical. It felt like we were dating again.

Sometimes life gets crazy (and the past year has been rough) & you need to have these moments to reflect on.

So today, on my hubby's birthday, I celebrate him.

The father he is to our children, the husband & friend he is to me.

Here’s to my hubby who doesn't really like social media but occasionally can be bribed to participate in my reels🤣
Healthy sleep habits. Ayana & I share several ways Healthy sleep habits. Ayana & I share several ways to get a good night's rest.
I’m guilty of telling my kids to use their words I’m guilty of telling my kids to use their words, but then I don’t provide them with the words to use. It’s important to not only give your children the skill set to deal with their problems, but make sure they understand how to use it.

These conversations start when they are toddlers. When they are toddlers, talk them through scenarios. As they acquire language skills, they will begin to mimic the words that you provided to them.
When my daughters have a disagreement, I resist the urge to get frustrated and send them to their rooms. We talk through the issue and I often encourage them to talk it out.
We discuss what upset them, and I encourage them to talk to each other and let each other know how they felt. I model these conversations with them until they can do them on their own.

When I hear yelling, I remind them to use respect when speaking to each other. It’s definitely a work in progress, but the more you start teaching them effective communication  at an early age, the more empowered they will feel about advocating for their own feelings in a variety of environments.

Teaching kids social skills comes naturally in my 9-5, but it gets a bit challenging to transfer the skills at home, but I'm determined tp raise effective communicators in all my children.

Who taught you to communicate?? How do you teach your kids how to communicate?
Sometimes when we argue, I hear things about mysel Sometimes when we argue, I hear things about myself that I don't like.

And sometimes it's true, even though I don't like it.

It doesn't feel good at the time, but it makes me a better person.

No one likes being wrong or the person that hurts others, but sometimes we're so connected to our feelings that we disconnect from every one else's.

The thing about marriage is that persevering is not just about survival, but about growing through your mess.

And teaching your kids that conflicts will come, but talking through them helps you grow.

I'm thankful my husband loves me through my stubbornness & pushes me to be a better version of myself--even when I'm not in the mood to grow🤣

Who is the peacemaker in your marriage? You or your spouse?

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I have a bad habit of starting a new book before i I have a bad habit of starting a new book before i finish the last.

But this book has been on my Amazon list since last year, so I decided to grab it.

As an educator, I'm always looking for more personal development.

Last year I attended a conference & in one of the sessions, i was overwhelmed by data about how black girls are treated. Black girls are 20% of female preschool enrollment, but 54% of girls receives one or more out of school suspensions.

"In a society so shaped by race & gender, we all live with implicit biases that inform our ideas, stereotypes & norms of black feminimity."

I can't wait to dig deeper into this book!
Know what i love about spring break?? Getting to Know what i love about spring break??

Getting to watch my kids play.

Use their imagination unapologetically.

And I'm more relaxed.

There's no rushing to end play because of homework or errands or work.

So cheers to spring break!
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