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I’ve been a blogger for five years and I’ve never seen parents panic more than I’ve seen in the last few weeks.

School closures have parents on edge and entrepreneurs are biting their nails waiting for normalcy and praying that their savings can sustain them during this pandemic.

Parents have been thrust into teaching their kids via home school during the quarantine. While anxiety is at an all-time high, it’s hard to see day by day when your vision is clouded by fear. Here are a few ways to help you cope and take a deep breath:

Start your own garden

When you grow your own food, you can have confidence in knowing where your food came from. How it was grown, what was used to grow it, and who handled it.

You don’t have to worry about braving the stores for fruits and veggies when you grow your own. And if you’re an outdoorsy person, you get a dose of Vitamin D while you do something you love!

Stay in touch with family and friends

Apps like Marco Polo and Zoom allow you to still see the people you love while you are practicing social distancing. If you’re an extrovert, it can be difficult to be shut off from daily interactions with people.

Limit your social media time

People are losing it online. They are sharing information without fact-checking. They are waving anxiety around in a desperate attempt to cope.

Being online can be a place that causes more anxiety if you are already experiencing anxiety due to the current state of affairs.

It’s okay to log off and give yourself time to breathe.

Take advantage of all the free entertainment available online

Home school during the quarantine doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun!

Instead of checking your Facebook account for updates that may not be accurate, use the Internet to access free group fitness, concerts, museum & zoo tours, and so much more!!

Let your tv or computer screen take you where you can’t go for now.

Use the resources your school/district is offering

By now, I’m sure you’ve seen a plethora of resources to help you navigate homeschooling with your child.

If you aren’t an educator, it can be overwhelming to know where to begin, even if your school is providing links and packages. Most teachers have provided a way to contact them, as well as offering office hours if you have questions.

Teachers entered the teaching profession to TEACH!

Don’t feel like you are bothering them by asking questions. They are concerned about their students and want to see them succeed, even if they are having to learn via distance learning.

Get creative with homeschool work

Is your kindergartener learning how to write their name? Get outside and have them write their name in dirt with a stick or in some chalk on the sidewalk.

Is your third grader struggling with multiplication? Use pretzel sticks to make groups to create a fun edible lesson.

Sitting at the kitchen table doing worksheets is boring. And if it’s not your thing, it makes the homeschooling last even more overwhelming.

Think back to some of the things your favorite teachers did in school. They use creativity and kept your attention. Learning doesn’t have to happen indoors and it doesn’t have to last all day. Think outside of the box! Home school during the quarantine doesn’t have to be labor-intensive and boring!

Catch up on housework

If you work outside of the home, balancing work, family, and home can be tricky. Sometimes it can be overwhelming juggling it all. Use this opportunity to catch up on some household projects that you were waiting on spring break to do.

Turn on some music and have a folding party. Get your little ones to learn to match and have them help match their socks. Housework doesn’t have to be boring. My kids love it when I blast music and dance around while doing things around the house. It makes a house feel like a home.

I work in an elementary school, so I make a practice of keeping up with laundry and wiping down surfaces. In my house, we try to keep toxic products out of our home, so I only need 1 product to clean every single surface, Thieves!! It helps our family stay above the wellness line.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Now is the time to invest in your health!!! With Young Living you get the opportunity to be plugged into some amazing supportive groups (like @shadesandstone), an amazing welcome package & access to me for all the questions! Thieves sanitizer, thieves household cleaner (for all the messes & spills), thieves roller (make your own), lavender for cuts & scrapes, valor for big feelings, peace & calming for the crazy moments, Ningxia to keep us all above the wellness line. Thieves is one of the easiest YL products to ditch and switch with. When you grab a bottle of thieves, you no longer need soft scrub, lysol, comet, toilet scrub, comet, windex, or any other cleaners! I use to pick up bottles that looked like they were “green” and “safe”, but I quickly learned that pretty pictures of plants on the bottle did not translate to being free of toxic chemicals. Let’s get this oily party started and let me help you on your wellness journey!

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Learn more about long term wellness

Wellness isn’t a choice you make once, rather a lifestyle.

When my husband became a farmer, his goal was to provide healthy, sustainable options for our local community. I remember him saying that he wanted to ensure that no matter what happened in the world, our family would never go hungry.

I admired his tenacity but scoffed a little at his thoughts about if something happened. His mission doesn’t seem so crazy anymore.

Wash yo hands

Listen, all the ‘rona’ talk has us paranoid about how long the virus can live on surfaces.

Now is the perfect opportunity to teach (and reteach) your kids how to wash their hands.

When our kids graduate from toddler years to adolescence, we assume that they’ve learned the basic skill of handwashing, but now is a good as time as any to reiterate it to your ENTIRE FAMILY.

Give yourself some grace

Home school during the quarantine is new for all of us. I’m a school counselor and preparing lessons for my kids was a little overwhelming for me too.

I’ve been in the field for over 12 years, but the new dynamic of our world makes homeschooling seem a bit daunting.

You won’t stick to the same schedule every day and that’s okay.

It’s okay to sleep in some days.

It’s okay that your kids miss their teacher.

It’s okay to miss work even though you are feeling guilty about not enjoying every second with your kids.

We have been thrust into quarantine, loss of some of our basic needs (i.e. toilet paper) and homeschooling all at once. Understand that defining your new normal won’t happen overnight.

And that’s okay too.

 

At the beginning of December, everyone starts looking for unique gift ideas for teachers, especially if they have more than 1 child.

Usually, the crafty moms don’t have trouble because they can whip up something quickly, but those of us who may be a little challenged in the crafty area start to twiddle our thumbs and guess what our kid’s teachers will like.

Some teachers put out a list at the beginning of the year that helps us know what their favorite things are, but most of the time, it gets a little tricky.

I’ve been a school counselor for 11 years, and I still struggle with finding the perfect gifts for teachers (so that should make you feel a little better)!

Instead of another Christmas mug, check out this list for some pretty fabulous gifts that any teacher or educator would love!

Cooluli Mini Beauty Fridge

 

The Cooluli mini-fridge makes a perfect gift for teachers because it switches from food warmer to food cooler. Nothing speaks a teacher’s love language more than being able to heat their lunch and cool their drinks from their classroom/office! It can be powered by an AC/DC adaptor or a USB cord!

Urpower diffuser

For the teacher who loves a more natural lifestyle, the Urpower diffuser is the perfect gift! It diffuses for up to 6 hours and has an auto shut off option. It has 7 color changing light options and is quiet enough not to be noticed in the classroom.

L.E.D Clock Fan

Teachers are always rushing from task to task, and sometimes from classroom to classroom. This unique desk clock also doubles as a fan.

It’s the perfect gift for the hot-natured teacher!

USB Mug Warmer

I don’t know about you, but there have been so many times I’ve brought a hot drink to work and I got so busy, that my drink got cold. I’ve even had to reheat my drink, and still got too busy to drink it!

This USB mug warmer is perfect for the busy teacher with cold coffee and it’s just under $10!

Tile Mate Key Finder

Does your child’s teacher always complain about losing things? Then the Tile Mate Key Finder is the perfect gift! Honestly, this is the perfect gift for any busy person in your life and can make a great stocking stuffer!

Tile is one of the easiest gadgets to set up! All you have to do is download the app, sync your device, and find anything you need!!  I love that the Tile is easy to attach to things. It has a hole in the top corner, but it can also be attached to flat surfaces.

Delicacy Ocean Wave Projector

Does your child’s teacher love science? Or do they love to spend large amounts of time at the beach? This delicacy ocean wave projector is the perfect gift for teachers who love the ocean.

It even has a built-in mini speaker that can play music from an iPod, iPad, desktop computer, android tablet or Mp3 player!

Rocketbook Everlast Reusable Smart Notebook

Teachers are constantly taking notes during faculty meetings, professional development and while they are assessing students. This rocketbook reusable notebook has pages that can be uploaded to Google, email, and so much more!

Young Living Basic Starter Kit

Giving a teacher a Young Living Basic Starter Kit is hooking them up with the gift of wellness! The Basic Starter Kit includes:

• Stress Away™, 5 ml (Stress Away™ essential oil blend contains a unique combination of Lime essential oil and vanilla extract. It’s this distinct mix of vanilla and Lime that gives Stress Away its unique and pleasant aroma, among other benefits.)
• AromaGlide® Roller Fitment (a roller top to put on top of the oils)
• Thieves® Hand Sanitizer, 1 oz. sample (non-toxic hand sanitizer)
• Thieves® Mints
• 2 NingXia Red®, 2 oz. samples (Natural energy booster made with wolfberries)
• Essential Oils at a Glance flyer
• Discover Your Young Living Lifestyle booklet

You can purchase the kit in your name and you automatically become a member! Becoming a member gives you 24% off all YL products, the ability to sign up for Essential Rewards (basically your own monthly wellness subscription box), ability to help friends order premium starter kit and the ability to get a paycheck (yes you read that right!).

 

If you would have told me 10 years ago that I’d be married to a farmer, I’d laugh in your face.

Seriously.

I remember the day my husband asked me if we could get chickens like it was yesterday. We lived on an acre of land in a quasi neighborhood.

I said no–firmly.

And I continued to say no every time he tried to change my mind.

In my mind, having chickens meant that my backyard would stink every time I went outside, and I also worried about attracting predators like snakes or foxes.

It also seemed too country for me. I grew up on an Air Force base hearing stories that my Jamaican parents shared with me about raising animals. My mom talked about having to kill a chicken, pluck it, then cook it for dinner. It seemed like such a far removed concept.

I loved the idea of having goats and other animals to care for, but killing my own dinner seemed like a thing of the past.

Now that he is a full time farmer, we have at least a dozen different chicken breeds that I could easily rattle off to you.

 

 

I can also tell you about different plants, oils, and holistic uses for a variety of plants we grow and use.

What changed my mind

4 years ago, my husband’s father passed away from dementia. He was a State Farm agent and my husband worked in his office as an insurance agent. He hated being on hold, haggling with customers who let their policies lapse and all the the politics. He had a voracious appetite for learning all things horticulture and was invested in growing a variety of different tropical and seasonal fruits and vegetables.

His hobby became his passion and he decided to start his own business and set out to provide our local community with fresh produce.

Seeing his passion for sustainability, I jumped on board.

Day to Day Farm Life

“Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man  healthy, wealthy and wise.”

I’m sure this quote is true, but he wasn’t talking about my family. We hate getting up early!

My husband is such a great father. He helps me with the kids in the morning and helps see us off. He even makes time to make homemade french toast.

Some days though, he has a long to do list and he is out the door while it is still dark.

Most days he is home after the kids are in bed. He has 200+ chickens, so he collects eggs 2x daily. He cleans, weighs and boxes up each one everyday.

He spends most of the day on his feet whether it is 90+ degrees outside, raining, cold, hail, etc.
Being married to a farmer means understanding that his body often takes a beating from the physical labor.

How we involve our kids

Teaching our kids about eating sweets in moderation, steering clear of genetically modified foods and inquiring about where their food comes from could literally be a full time job.

We are investing in our children and leaving a legacy of health and wellness to them.

They get to help raise chickens and collect eggs, so they value the hard work that their dad (along with other farmers) do to put food on the table.

The worst part

Spring, summer and fall are the busiest seasons. My husband works Sunday through Saturday and most nights are late nights.

This makes family time a little harder to get.

 

Being an entrepreneur does provide some flexibility in day to day scheduling, but it also makes for a choppy day. If we are together for homework and dinner, sometimes he has to leave to finish farm chores at bedtime.

On Saturdays when most families are going to the beach or taking a long weekend somewhere, my husband is still working. Either we leave him behind to take a trip, or we spend time together on the farm or somewhere local so that he can be home in time to tend to the crops/animals.

The best part

Honestly, the benefits of being married to a farmer far out outweighs anything bad. The more I learn about how food is mass produced, the less I can eat! Watching my husband sow into our community brings me such a great sense of pride! I love seeing him work so hard to educate and provide food for our family and community that is free from chemicals.

All of the physical labor means that he is getting a fair amount of exercise. His svelte physique encourages me to stay in shape and make healthy choices.

Watching our kids run around the farm playing for hours on end reminds me of the carefree days in my childhood. I love that they are using their imaginations and enjoy unplugging from technology.

I also know that they will be equipped with life skills beyond what they learn in a textbook. They will never go hungry because they will know how to grow their own food.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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There has been a lot of talk lately about the unfair treatment of animals and toxic chemicals in our products & our food. Growing up, I loved hearing stories about my parents growing up in Jamaica. They talked about the chores they had before school (feeding animals) & I remember thinking, I’d love to have a fun chore like that! My mom described how it was often her job to kill, clean & cook the chicken. I often got lost in their stories & tried to imagine what that life was like. When my husband first took an interest in horticulture, he started talking about food & quality. Most people rolled their eyes when he talked (me included), but now with all of the recalls, our conversations ate etched in my brain. I’m so glad he had a vision for a lifestyle similar to the way my parents grew up. While I won’t be killing any chickens to eat, I’ll rely on other local farmers & butchers to provide us with food that was raised free of hormones & animals that were treated kindly. It’s time to wake up y’all. Turning a blind eye to wellness has costly long term effects that are starting to manifest in young people.Start paying attention to those labels & start asking questions. Ignorance is NOT bliss.

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Farm life has been a wonderful addition to our family life. Being married to a farmer is unique, in that his job is not a 9-5 position. Farming is a sacrifice, but provides such wonderful benefits to our family and community.

 

 

 

I have been happily married to my white husband for 10 years this December. Being married to him does not make me less black.

I love him because we have so many things in common, and we genuinely enjoy each other’s company. We share many of the same beliefs and life goals. I believe that we were created for each other.

He happens to be my white husband and I just happen to be his black wife.

I remember when some of my black associates and girlfriends found out that I was dating someone white. They were afraid to use the description of white person in front of me.

It was an awkward transition, trying to explain to them that I was the same person, and using a race related descriptor could still be used.

After we got married, it wasn’t so awkward anymore, I guess because our relationship status became permanent.
They also made assumptions about my hobbies and interests. That they would suddenly change because of my white husband.

If my hobbies and interests have changed, it’s because I have evolved as a person, not because of his whiteness.

And interests really can supersede race.

I am a believer that culture and experience can shape a person’s world much more than race can.

When I meet people for the first time and I am talking about my family, I don’t describe them in terms of race (white husband, biracial children). Because it often has nothing to do with who they are as people.

But when people see them for the first time, especially my black peers, sometimes I sense a change in how I am treated. I’ve been told that I don’t understand “the struggle” as much, or that I’m lucky that my children won’t face discrimination because they are light skinned.

Although I understand my husband’s privileged, it is not automatically transferred to me.

And my children are not lucky, because despite the discrimination that does come with brown skin, I don’t see brown skin as a curse.

We just have to work harder at explaining hard things to them, like the importance of Black History Month, Black Lives Matter & why people are upset about a black little mermaid.

And if we’re really being honest, shouldn’t these kinds of conversations be happening in every household, not just the multiracial ones??

When I was younger, opening the door to conversations about my family use to make me nervous. I hated when black people asked me what it was like being married to a white man, or when strangers asked what my kids were mixed with.

Now, I take these conversations with stride. If I feel like entertaining invasive questions with an answer, then I answers already prepared in my head. (If you need help coming up with some answers, check out what I say here.)

And If I don’t feel like answering them, then I don’t. I don’t owe anyone an explanation for my choices–and frankly, neither do you.

Even if the questions come from family members, acquaintances or church members.

So don’t get it twisted…..even though I have a white husband, I can promise you that I’m still black. I still love watching Coming to America and I’ll still rock an afro.

 

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What is #plasticfreejuly? It’s a way that we all can do our part to help the environment and reduce our carbon footprint. Leaving a cleaner, healthier, safer earth for our children and grandchildren is an important part of the legacy that we want to leave for their future.

Unfortunately, sometimes it feels like so many of the changes that we could make are out of our budget. It’s easy to get discouraged when you see all the boutique “green” and “eco-friendly” alternatives out there!

Here are ten zero waste habit shifts that you can introduce in your home that will not only save you money, but help lower your carbon footprint, create less waste and simplify your life!

Thrifting and shopping secondhand

This is a great way to find what you need, keep usable items out of a landfill and cut out the unnecessary carbon cost of creating a new product.

You can also check to see if your area has a local Buy Nothing group, swap group or neighborhood list serve where people buy, sell and giveaway items they no longer need.

It’s a great way to get to know your neighbors and reduce your waste!

Switch

There are a few easy switches in this category where you’d be surprised that you can cut down on packaging and save a little money.

Why not get unpackaged hand, facial, body bar soap instead of liquid soap? You can also buy shampoo, conditioner, lotion, bug repellent and sunscreen in bar form as well. Use a glass olive oil decanter over and over and and refill it with water and concentrated castile soap or water and grated bar castile soap that have been boiled together.

As far as products go, I’ll be the first to say that I’m pretty picky about things- especially the items that I put in my natural hair to keep my curls moisturized. It’s totally okay to have some items that are no go’s right now for you!

Making sustainable changes is not about being perfect.

Maybe you’re less picky about your body lotion or your spouse’s shampoo. Just work on switching the things that you can! The more you do it the more you’ll slowly find options that work for you.

Switching out unpackaged personal and home care items

There are a few easy switches in this category where you’d be surprised that you can cut down on packaging and save a little money.

Why not get unpackaged hand, facial, body bar soap instead of liquid soap? You can also buy shampoo, conditioner, lotion, bug repellent and sunscreen in bar form as well.

Use a glass olive oil decanter over and over and and refill it with water and concentrated castile soap or water and grated bar castile soap that have been boiled together. As far as products go, I’ll be the first to say that I’m pretty picky about things- especially the items that I put in my natural hair to keep my curls moisturized.

It’s totally okay to have some items that are no go’s right now for you!

Making sustainable changes is not about being perfect. Maybe you’re less picky about your body lotion or your spouse’s shampoo. Just work on switching the things that you can! The more you do it the more you’ll slowly find options that work for you.

 Avoid plastic and opt for glass, paper, baskets, wood and stainless steel

Let the kids use regular ceramic dishes! Need a bin for your kids’ books or toys? Get a natural fiber woven basket instead of a plastic bin.

Planning a summer water fest for the kids? Use biodegradable water beads instead of plastic water balloons? Using a lot of single use plastic when you go out to eat?

 

Keep a simple kit in your car with wooden forks and spoons, glass takeaway containers, cloth napkins and reusable water bottles in the trunk of your car.

Do you need to buy a cheap plastic razor? Why not opt for a durable stainless steel razor instead?

Cook from scratch and buy in bulk

Making food from scratch is one of the best ways to lower your carbon footprint. Bonus- it’s much tastier and healthier too! Does your family have a serious hummus habit?

Head to the store with a mason jar and buy some dried chickpeas, throw them in the crockpot and make it yourself!

No waste involved.

I love shopping in the bulk section at the market. It cuts down on waste and getting access to a wider range of beans, legumes and grains makes my cooking so much more exciting!

Repurpose what you have

Learn to sew! Upcycle furniture!

I make fabric bows and beeswax food wrappers out of my husband’s worn out work shirts.

My kids love to see the transformation, I save serious money and hey- what else am I going to do while watching Netflix at night?

Cloth diapers

If you have been a parent for even 3 days you know how many diapers kids go through. ‘Nuff said.

Buy food in season

When you buy food out of season, chances are there will be more packaging, not to mention a higher cost and very a high carbon footprint to get those tasty berries to your door in the winter.

Bring reusable bags

Not just bags to carry your groceries in, but bags to put your produce in.

Bonus- use old sheets or woven shirts that have seen better days and make your own. This is probably the easiest way to participate in #plasticfreejuly.

Almost every store offers recyclable bags now.

Cut out paper towels

We cut out our paper towel habit when my oldest daughter was about 8 months old and I couldn’t believe how many paper towers I was going through cleaning up after her.

I keep one roll in the pantry in case of some sort of blueberry apocalypse, but I’ve had that roll for the past 3 years. You don’t need anything special!

Cut up old towels to wipe little messy faces and fingers and sew or purchase napkins for other uses at the table.

Re-assess what your needs really are

A mindset shift doesn’t cost anything but may be the hardest one to adopt! Moving yourself out of a consumer mindset and re-assessing what you really need and the role that stuff plays in your life is critical.

Do you need those cheaply made items in the dollar section of Target?

Do your kids really need more toys? Like really need them?

That cheap shirt from Old Navy may be on sale for $9 but what will it cost you terms of the mental energy it takes to add another item to your home to take care of not to mention the cost to the earth of another fast fashion or cheap throwaway item?

And the nicest thing about #plasticfreejuly? When you see how easy it is to make small changes, you can adopt them all year long.

What switches are you making in your home this #plasticfreeJuly?

 

This guest post was written by Alexandria Scott. Alexandria is a writer, educator and community advocate who helps readers learn about about travel, history, language, culture and policy through through the lens of multicultural and anti-bias education. She also enjoys learning and writing about sustainability, parenthood, art, education, and the outdoors. 

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In an effort to protect my children against diseases passed around by insects, I need non-toxic insect repellent options that don’t cause a host of other health concerns.

As the weather heats up, the bugs come out, and in the south, they bite…A LOT.

 

And if you dare go outside in the evenings, or after it rains, you can guarantee that someone in your group is coming back with bites.

My husband is a farmer, and our family spends a significant amount of time outdoors, especially during summer break. We also have two farm dogs that love to patrol the farm and run into the woods.

So not only do we have to protect ourselves against mosquitos, but also ticks.

When I was growing up, I remember being told that you didn’t have good bug spray unless it contained DEET. Now we know that children with DEET toxicity reported some concerning physical ailments like headaches, tremors, seizures and more.

Since my family is on a journey to wellness, finding non-toxic insect repellent options has been important to us. Here are a few great brands that provide protection against insects:

Young Living

When I was looking for non-toxic insect repellent options, Young Living was my first choice. Their seed to seal promise is that you only get the best ingredients derived straight from plants.

Young Living makes two insect repellent options–a liquid as well as wipes. The insect repellent is made of sesame seed oil, vitamin E oil and a blend of other oils. That’s it!!

The application is smooth, non-greasy and has a pleasant smell. Most importantly, it’s DEET free!

Want to know more about my essential oils journey and why I’m so passionate about it for my family? Read more here.

Hello Bello

Hello Bello is a new brand that launched earlier this year by actress Kristen Bell and her husband Dax Shepard. What I love about this brand is that they are dedicated to having safe, clean options for children at an affordable price.

They products are plant based, and their bug spray is no exception. I love that you can visit the website and see a list of all the ingredients, so you know exactly what’s going on your child’s skin.

And their ingredients are organic!

California Baby

California Baby products are a little on the pricey side, but their products are vegetable and plant based, so there is no soy, nut oils, gluten or dairy. Their products contain organic and sustainably grown products, so you get what you pay for.

BabyOrganics

Baby Organics is a great option for non-toxic insect repellant & they make so many other great baby products. It’s DEET free, smells great and is easy to apply. And their products are not animal tested.

 

Burt’s Bees

Burt’s Bees is such a great brand. I started using them when my husband first became a farmer. Their products are great for adults and children.

If you love the smell of honey and natural ingredients, then you will love the scent of their products. Their non-toxic insect repellent was made in North Carolina and contains rosemary oil.

 

If you need a more comprehensive list of brands that provide non-toxic options for skin and hair, then I’ve got you! Check out the Curly Hair & Skin Guide for Babies and Toddlers.