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Raising Biracial Kids in Today's World

Multiracial Families: Debunking 4 Common Myths & Misconceptions

September 11, 2016 By Diedre 15 Comments

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Multiracial Families: Debunking 4 Common Myths & Misconceptions

Even though Multiracial families are becoming the norm, many people still hold on to stereotypes, misconceptions, and preconceived notions.

It is estimated that 21% of Americans will identify as multiracial by 2050.  My kids will be part of that number. Interesting isn’t it?

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Back in 1967, there were actually state laws that banned interracial marriage. These laws weren’t overturned until the Supreme Court case, Loving vs. Virginia in 1967. In that case, the Supreme Court found that it was unconstitutional for the state of Virginia to ban interracial marriage.

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This case has done wonders for this country but the conversations we have about multiracial families doesn’t need to stop here. Here are a few incorrect assumptions people make about multiracial families:

Spouses are Attracted to Each Other Specifically Because of Race

For my husband and I, this definitely wasn’t true. When we met, we bonded over food, music & conversation. Our friendship evolved into a relationship.

Our attraction to each other was just as much for inner qualities as physical attraction.

We both had dated inside of our race prior to meeting each other.

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Multiracial Children are Destined for Racial Confusion

Don’t you dare feel sorry for my family or my children! I was very intentional about where I chose to live, educate my children & even the circle I run in. All of those influences can have a negative or positive impact on my children.

My girls are exposed to both sides of the family and embrace both their races and cultures.

We read books about identity, and I plan on having more in depth conversations with them as they grow and mature.

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Multiracial Families Have More Tension

Having a multiracial family does not equal family tension. Tensions in families arise from personality conflicts, family history,  among a host of other issues.

Since starting this blog, I’ve been pleased to hear that many people in interracial relationships have had positive experiences blending families. In my own family, my husband was embraced when we visited Jamaica.

He enjoyed the country much more than I did (it could have a little to do with the fact that I was 5 months pregnant and we were not always in a building with AC & my hormones were raging)

Interracial Means Black and White

This is a common misconception, especially in the south. Interracial relationships come in all racial & cultural mixtures.

Minorities in interracial relationships often get overlooked in the discussion. Interracial means a mixture of different racial groups, even if skin tones match or look similar.

What myths or misconceptions have you heard, or personally had about multiracial families? Did you like this post? Then do me a favor and give it a share!

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  1. Mimi says

    September 12, 2016 at 11:25 am

    I like your post. I am not in a interracial relationship but I do have families who are. The children are fine. As a matter of fact, the children to the best of my knowledge doesn’t even notice their skin color or their parents’ skin color. We are very diverse. The conversations will help them grow and mature in beautiful women. I say you and your husband are doing great. Continue to expose them to different ethnic groups. Taking them to see plays or even role playing at home is another way for them to be a little more “exposed”. Keep it up

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    • Diedre says

      September 12, 2016 at 11:48 pm

      Thank you Mimi! What wonderful advice.

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  2. Breanna says

    September 12, 2016 at 9:39 pm

    Such a tough topic! Thanks for opening people’s eyes 🙂

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    • Diedre says

      September 13, 2016 at 9:31 am

      It can be. Hopefully more conversations won’t make people feel like they have to tip toe around it. Thanks for reading Breanna.

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  3. Amaris Beecher says

    September 12, 2016 at 11:30 pm

    LOVE the part about more tension. You are so right! It’s definitely not limited to race, but also personality, history… etc.

    Love this post! Love you, Diedre!

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    • Diedre says

      September 12, 2016 at 11:49 pm

      Thank you Amaris! I can always count on your thoughtful comments <3

      Reply
  4. Patricia says

    September 13, 2016 at 2:38 am

    Great Diedre!! While I dated outside my race prior to my husband most of my dating history was in college, at an HBCU. I actually had someone tell me that I must of gotten tired of black men which is why I went for my husband! And the family tension is too true. I had some challenges with my in-laws that are thankfully resolved but it was never about race. Different personalities are always going to be challenging to navigate no matter what you look like LOL

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    • Diedre says

      September 13, 2016 at 9:30 am

      Thanks Patricia! I want to make the point that people are people. You get it

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  5. Luz says

    September 16, 2016 at 12:32 am

    This is a great post. I definitely identify myself with many of these issues. Although my husband and I are the same race we were definitely raised differently and now we are trying to find a meeting point for our son.

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    • Diedre says

      September 16, 2016 at 12:37 am

      Thanks Luz! Yes, parenting is a challenge on many levels. Finding that common ground with your spouse can be tricky. You have to find what works for you both versus just repeating everything that your parents did.

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