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6 Easy Ways to Make Your Husband Feel Loved & Appreciated

February 6, 2017 By Diedre 15 Comments

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Weddings are exciting. We witness two people who have fallen passionately in love confess their love in front of friends and family. Fast forward a few years and life often gets in the way. We let the monotony of our daily responsibilities cloud our hearts and loving our spouse becomes a bit more difficult. How can you bring the spark back in your marriage and make your husband feel loved? Here are 6 ways….

Know His Love Language

We often love how we want to be loved. Then we get frustrated when our gestures aren’t reciprocated.

Get to know your husband from the inside out. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married 10 years, 1 year or 5 minutes.

Sometimes we love our husbands the way we want to be loved. We think we’re doing a good thing, but we’re completely missing the mark. For example, my husband loves to be affirmed and love physical touch. I love when he helps me around the house & with the kids (act of service)

Encourage Him

One of the benefits of marriage is that you have a built in encourager. Is your man confident? Does he often brag about his skills?
That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t need a little encouragement–we all do.

If you don’t know where to start, find a happily married couple that would be interested in mentoring you. There’s no shame in asking for help!

Listen to Him

After a long day, he wants to vent. You just want to put the kids to bed and crash. It’s hard to listen sometimes when you feel like your own needs are not being met–either by your spouse, or the craziness of parenting.

Healthy communication is the key to any healthy relationship. Do you struggle to communicate because you are tired after work? Do the kids interrupt every time you try to have alone time?

Sounds like it’s time for a date night! Schedule some time to be alone without interruptions. Can’t get away for date night? Then make time for each other once the kids are in bed. Spending time together allows you to grow together instead of apart. Learning each other’s love languages is vital to keeping the spark alive.

Thank Him

Thank your husband for the little things. Like getting up with the kids so you can get an extra hour of sleep.

Or washing your car unexpectedly.

Sometimes we don’t want to thank them because we think that they don’t deserve thanks for what they should be doing. But, everyone deserves to be appreciated.

And your hubby will probably be motivated to help you more if he knows you are grateful.

Touch Him

This goes without saying. But doesn’t always have to be sexual (although I’m sure your husband would appreciate it if it was!).

You can kiss him before he leaves for work.

Give your hubby a backrub after a workout. Hold his hand at the movies.

Brag on Him in His Presence

Tell your family and friends what a good husband you have. It’s so easy to complain. Complain about what he’s not doing, or how he hurt your feelings. But we have to remember that marriages are sacred. And people remember the bad stuff we tell them, even when we are just venting.

Let’s be honest, some of you don’t want to do these things.

Maybe he has been a jerk to you lately.

Have you stopped and asked why?

It’s hard to make him feel loved if you don’t feel loved yourself.

The funny thing about love and affection though is that it has a way of being contagious. Far too many people give up on their marriage too soon.

I promised you these would be easy ways to improve your marriage! WIt’s never too late to work on your marriage. You vowed to be together for life. So why not live a happy life together?

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Communication Boost: How to Maximize Conversation With Your Child

July 24, 2016 By Diedre 11 Comments

Creating an environment that teaches our children to communicate can be difficult. As they get older, they start to keep their thoughts and feelings to themselves. Instead of talking to their parents like they did as toddlers, they find friends to confide in.

Moms can challenge this by showing their kids that their voice matters and they’re valuable. Here are a few things moms can do with their family to boost communication with their children.

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How to Keep the Love Alive (After Kids)

November 2, 2015 By Diedre 3 Comments

Having kids totally changes the dynamic of marriage. Between the dirty diapers, late night feedings & tantrums, it can be difficult to keep the love alive with your spouse. When you can barely keep your eyes open after an exhausting day with the kids, the last thing you feel like is making time for your spouse.

However, love is more than a feeling, it’s an action. Making your spouse a priority, even when your time together is limited, is vital for a healthy marriage relationship.

My husband and I have been married for 0 years. Every year, we like to take some time to reflect on our relationship. For this post, I decided to interview my husband. He wanted to share some helpful tips with you all.

Diedre: Justin, how have we kept the love alive?

Justin: It helps to clean stuff up.

Diedre: Can you elaborate?

Justin: Deep sigh. Dishes. Tub. Bathroom. Humor. Laugh with each other. I like seeing my wife smile. Make dinner at home with her favorite beverage. Admit when you’re wrong.

His answers were short, sweet and to the point.

I agree with my husband, but I’m going to give you a bit more detail..from a mother’s perspective.

Sometimes we get stuck in the monotony of work (inside and outside of the home) and our duties of parenthood. Our spouse becomes our partner in handling life’s debacles but ceases to be our lover and friend. This is sad.

Stay in Shape

Okay, this may seem like a weird tip, but when you’re in shape, you feel better about yourself. When you feel better about yourself, you feel more attractive. Feeling more attractive creates amazing sexual chemistry between marriage partners.

You also have more energy to keep up with the kids! Not to mention fewer trips to the doctor and contributing to your overall health.

Talk to Each Other, Not at Each Other

Raising kids together is beautiful, but also tiring! Sometimes we look at our spouse as the person who can help run errands.

Can you take out the trash? Can you run to the bank? I thought you’d have dinner ready?!

Taking time to communicate makes your partner feel valued.

Take time to put your phone down and look your partner in the eye. Purposfully put each other first.

If you are frustrated, communicate why you are frustrated.

Timing is Everything

How many of you know this is true??

For example, if I’ve just gotten home from work, and my husband is frustrated because I’ve spent too much money this month, discussing it with me while I’m juggling bath time and preparing for the next day, is the worst possible time.

If he catches me after the kids are in bed and helps me fold a load of laundry while we talk, I’ll be more receptive to what he has to say.

Connect with Other Adults

Sometimes you feel as if you’re alone.

All you do is yell at the kids, and your spouse annoys you.

Getting together with other couples who have kids reminds you that you aren’t alone! Adult interaction goes a long way, especially if you can do it together!

Compliment your Spouse

You think he knows you find him attractive because you said yes.

He thinks you know he appreciates you because he doesn’t complain when you cook.

Who doesn’t like to hear nice things about themselves? Don’t let your spouse think you’re taking him/her for granted. Tell them what you love about them!