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5 Ways to Evolve Gracefully with your Spouse

February 22, 2016 By Diedre 68 Comments

5 Ways to Evolve Gracefully with your Spouse

 

I’ve heard many people who struggle in their marriages talk about how they’ve just grown apart from their spouse. The truth of the matter is that we continue to grow and change as people. Life changes us as we weather different seasons.

In marriage, we should be growing together through those seasons. Marriage should be a verb because growing together takes work. It takes work to embrace the person  you love as they continue to evolve.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years. In those 6 years, he has been a travel agent, State Farm insurance agent and now a farmer. My career as a School Counselor hasn’t changed, however I’ve become a mother twice, and that is an evolution in itself.

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Here are 5 ways to evolve gracefully with your spouse:

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5 Tips For Communicating Effectively With Your Spouse

February 1, 2016 By Diedre 126 Comments

Raising a child is a complicated, beautiful adventure. Raising a biracial child is an adventure that comes with a few complicated twists and turns. Race and identity often become a number one priority, and parents don't always feel equipped to handle those issues.

Does anyone else every struggle on occasion with communicating with their spouse?

Then trust me, you’ve stopped at the right place.

This month I’m excited to talk about all things love and relationships. One of the keys to any successful relationship is good communication skills. We are even evaluated on the job based on our skills. But what does that really mean?

As a School Counselor, one of the things that I stress to my students repeatedly is effective communication. I teach them how to communicate with their teachers, peers and family members.

Surprisingly, adults also struggle with effective communication.  In this post, I’m laying out 5 tips for healthy communication with your spouse. …

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How to Keep the Love Alive (After Kids)

November 2, 2015 By Diedre 3 Comments

How to keep the love alive (after kids)

Having kids totally changes the dynamic of marriage. Between the dirty diapers, late night feedings & tantrums, it can be difficult to keep the love alive with your spouse. When you can barely keep your eyes open after an exhausting day with the kids, the last thing you feel like is making time for your spouse.

However, love is more than a feeling, it’s an action. Making your spouse a priority, even when your time together is limited, is vital for a healthy marriage relationship.

My husband and I have been married for 0 years.  Every year, we like to take some time to reflect on our relationship. For this post, I decided to interview my husband. He wanted to share some helpful tips with you all.

Diedre: Justin, how have we kept the love alive?

Justin: It helps to clean stuff up.

Diedre: Can you elaborate?

Justin: Deep sigh. Dishes. Tub. Bathroom. Humor. Laugh with each other. I like seeing my wife smile. Make dinner at home with her favorite beverage. Admit when you’re wrong.

His answers were short, sweet and to the point.

I agree with my husband, but I’m going to give you a bit more detail..from a mother’s perspective.

Sometimes we get stuck in the monotony of work (inside and outside of the home) and our duties of parenthood. Our spouse becomes our partner in handling life’s debacles but ceases to be our lover and friend. This is sad.

Stay in Shape

Okay, this may seem like a weird tip, but when you’re in shape, you feel better about yourself. When you feel better about yourself, you feel more attractive. Feeling more attractive creates amazing sexual chemistry between marriage partners.

You also have more energy to keep up with the kids! Not to mention fewer trips to the doctor and contributing to your overall health.

Talk to Each Other, Not at Each Other

Raising kids together is beautiful, but also tiring! Sometimes we look at our spouse as the person who can help run errands.

Can you take out the trash? Can you run to the bank? I thought you’d have dinner ready?!

Taking time to communicate makes your partner feel valued.

Making your spouse a priority, even when your time together is limited, is vital for a healthy marriage relationship; however, keeping the love alive is a challenge after having kids.

Take time to put your phone down and look your partner in the eye. Purposfully put each other first.

If you are frustrated, communicate why you are frustrated.

Timing is Everything

How many of you know this is true??

For example, if I’ve just gotten home from work, and my husband is frustrated because I’ve spent too much money this month, discussing it with me while I’m juggling bath time and preparing for the next day, is the worst possible time.

If he catches me after the kids are in bed and helps me fold a load of laundry while we talk, I’ll be more receptive to what he has to say.

Connect with Other Adults

Sometimes you feel as if you’re alone.

All you do is yell at the kids, and your spouse annoys you.

Getting together with other couples who have kids reminds you that you aren’t alone! Adult interaction goes a long way, especially if you can do it together!

Compliment your Spouse

You think he knows you find him attractive because you said yes.

He thinks you know he appreciates you because he doesn’t complain when you cook.

Who doesn’t like to hear nice things about themselves? Don’t let your spouse think you’re taking him/her for granted. Tell them what you love about them!

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I want to hear from you! What have you found keeps the love alive? What is the biggest challenge in your marriage now that you have kids?

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