Toddler Tantrums: How to Avoid the Ultimate Embarrassment

Becoming a parent means adjusting nearly every aspect of your lifestyle. Long brunches, late-night events, or spontaneous trips to the store become a bit more complicated when you have toddlers in tow.

If you’ve ever planned a perfect outing only to have it unravel thanks to tears, tantrums, and overstimulation—you’re not alone.

After raising four kids and learning a few things the hard way, I’ve picked up some practical strategies that help minimize toddler meltdowns and keep family adventures joyful.

Let me say this first: You can plan every detail perfectly—and things can still fall apart. That doesn’t make you a bad parent. It makes you human. Toddlers are unpredictable by nature.

Having littles also means that sometimes you have to say no to events and trips—or at least keep those visits shorter than you’d like. It’s not about missing out. It’s about showing up for your kids in a way that supports their needs and protects your peace.. That doesn’t make you a bad parent. It makes you human. Toddlers are unpredictable by nature.

Remember, this is a sensitive developmental stage. Toddlers are learning boundaries, how to process big feelings, and how to communicate—often without the vocabulary to say, “I’m hungry,” “I’m hot,” or “this is too much.”

Their behaviors might seem irrational, but many outbursts are normal responses to discomfort or overwhelm. And that’s okay.

One small thing that helps? Dress them appropriately for the weather. A toddler who’s too hot, too cold, or feeling itchy or constricted in their clothes might not be able to explain it—but they’ll let you know with a meltdown. Prioritizing comfort goes a long way.

And while we’re talking about knowing your child’s limits—if they aren’t feeling well, don’t force it. Toughing it out can backfire quickly. What might be a minor cold to us can be a total meltdown trigger for them.

Choose the Right Time of Day

Most toddlers fall apart when they’re tired or hungry. The best time to go out is first thing in the morning after breakfast or shortly after a nap.

That post-nap grogginess can actually work in your favor—it keeps them calm and less reactive as they warm up to a new environment.

Pack Snacks You Know They’ll Eat

Yes, funnel cake is amazing, but your toddler might not agree. Bring their favorite snacks and drinks (especially if they’re picky) to prevent hunger-based breakdowns.

I keep milk and water in an insulated bottle for my daughter, who doesn’t care much for juice or soda. Snacks are lifesavers.

Related: 4 Simple Skin & Hair Tips for Biracial Babies – because wellness isn’t just about food.

Bring Reinforcements (When You Can)

Whether it’s Grandma, a close friend, or your partner, having extra hands can make a big difference.

Familiar faces offer comfort to your toddler and support to you if things go sideways.

Use Your Stroller Like a Pro

Think of your stroller as more than just a ride—it’s storage, containment, and your sanity in one.

I’ve used mine to carry diapers, snacks, sunscreen, and even a toddler who hit their limit early. It saves your arms and your mood.

Ignore the Stares

You know your child better than anyone. If someone’s giving you side-eye in the middle of a meltdown, brush it off.

Once in Belk, a woman commented that my daughter needed a nap—after she’d literally just had one. Grace over guilt, always.

Know Their Limits

Even the most fun outing can become overwhelming fast. If your child starts melting down and nothing helps, it’s okay to leave.

Once we had to bail on a Halloween event when our toddler was too overstimulated and our baby was half-asleep. Home was the best place for everyone that day.

Trust your gut. Your kids’ well-being comes before the photo op.

Capture the Real Moments

Yes, take the cute pics with powdered sugar on their face—but don’t be afraid to document the meltdown moments too.

You’ll laugh later. (Promise.)

Want more real-life parenting tips like this? Follow along on Instagram at @arethoseyourkids and read more toddler moments and lessons on the blog.

What was the last outing you took with your toddler? What worked—and what didn’t? Tell me below!

Save