If you’re a parent, you may have wondered: What exactly does a school counselor do?
Maybe you’ve heard the term “guidance counselor” before, but here’s the thing—we are no longer called guidance counselors.
The role of a school counselor has evolved significantly over the years. We don’t just “guide” students in choosing classes or preparing for careers. We play a critical role in the emotional, social, and academic development of children.
As a school counselor with 16 years of experience, I want to break down what we do, how we can help your child, and how you as a parent can utilize our services effectively.
What is a School Counselor?
A school counselor is a trained mental health professional who helps students succeed socially, emotionally, and academically.
We work with students through:
Individual counseling – One-on-one support for students struggling with emotions, friendships, family changes, anxiety, or behavior.
Small group counseling – Support groups for students facing similar challenges, such as grief, divorce, self-esteem, or friendship skills.
Classroom guidance lessons – Teaching all students important life skills such as emotional regulation, conflict resolution, and personal safety.
Unlike therapists, school counselors provide short-term, solution-focused support. If a student needs long-term mental health care, we help connect families with outside therapists to ensure their child gets the best possible help.
How Can a School Counselor Help My Child?
Many parents only think of school counselors when their child is in trouble. But the truth is, we’re here to help all students—not just those who are struggling.
Here are some of the many ways we support students:
1. Emotional and Social Development
- Teaching students how to manage big emotions like frustration, sadness, and anxiety.
- Helping students develop friendship and communication skills.
- Supporting students experiencing bullying or peer pressure.
2. Academic Support
- Teaching study skills and time management strategies.
- Helping students who struggle with test anxiety.
- Encouraging a growth mindset so students don’t give up when learning is hard.
3. Crisis Intervention
- Supporting students who have experienced trauma or loss.
- Helping students in mental health crises and connecting families with resources.
- Providing immediate support if a student is experiencing self-harm thoughts or suicidal ideation.
How Do School Counselors Work with Parents?
As a parent, you are your child’s greatest advocate—but you don’t have to do it alone.
School counselors partner with parents to:
- Provide updates on social and emotional concerns affecting school performance.
- Offer strategies for managing behavior at home.
- Help navigate difficult conversations with teachers or administration.
- Connect families with outside counseling services when needed.
If you ever have concerns about your child’s emotional well-being, behavior, or academic success, reach out to your child’s school counselor. We are here to help!
Why Do School Counselors Refer to Outside Therapists?
Many parents ask, Why can’t my child just see the school counselor for therapy?
The answer is: We provide short-term support, not long-term therapy.
School counselors typically meet with students for a limited number of sessions to help with short-term challenges like:
- A friendship conflict
- Test anxiety
- A temporary family issue (such as a recent move or parents divorcing)
However, if a student is:
Experiencing ongoing anxiety or depression
Showing significant changes in behavior
Dealing with trauma, grief, or self-harm
We may recommend outside counseling because long-term therapy is beyond the scope of what we can provide in a school setting.
Outside therapists can meet with your child weekly and provide intensive support to help them thrive both in and out of school.
What Kind of Lessons Do School Counselors Teach?
We provide classroom guidance lessons that teach all students critical life skills, such as:
Social Skills – How to make friends, handle peer pressure, and communicate effectively.
Emotional Regulation – How to manage big emotions like anger, frustration, and sadness.
Conflict Resolution – How to work through disagreements in a healthy way.
Personal Safety – Understanding boundaries, stranger danger, and how to report unsafe situations. Coping Strategies – Teaching mindfulness, deep breathing, and problem-solving skills.
These lessons empower students with tools they can use for the rest of their lives.
What Can Parents Do to Support Their Child at School?
If you suspect your child is struggling—whether emotionally, socially, or academically—don’t wait. Here’s how you can advocate for them and utilize the school counselor’s services effectively:
1. Contact the School Counselor Directly
- If your child is struggling, schedule a private meeting with the counselor.
- Be specific about your concerns (behavior, emotions, friendships, grades, etc.).
2. Keep Communication Open with Teachers
- Teachers see your child daily and can provide insight into changes in mood, behavior, or academics.
- If there’s a concern, work together with the teacher and counselor to create a support plan.
3. Know the School’s Mental Health Resources
- Ask about the school’s anti-bullying policies and mental health support options.
- If your child needs ongoing therapy, ask for a referral list of community therapists.
4. Teach Your Child to Self-Advocate
- Encourage them to speak up when they need help.
- Let them know the school counselor is a safe person they can talk to.
Final Thoughts: School Counselors Are Here for Your Child
A school counselor is so much more than just an academic advisor—we are here to support the whole child. Whether it’s social skills, emotional health, or academic confidence, our goal is to help every student thrive.
As a school counselor and postpartum doula, I know how critical support systems are for both kids and parents. You don’t have to do this alone.
If you want to continue the conversation, follow me on Instagram for more parenting and school counseling tips:
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And if you’re looking for more parenting resources, check out these posts:
How to Advocate for Your Child at School
Helping Your Child Handle Friendship Drama
Your child deserves a safe, supportive school environment—and their school counselor is here to help.
Have a question? Drop it in the comments or reach out to your child’s school counselor today!
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